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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): I am pleased to hear that you have organized free time with your boyfriend. Have you organized being compensated for your labor? Have you completed your education? Do you have career plans?Good luck to you.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 That's very good to hear! I wish you all the happiness in the world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guys for the words of strength to face my sis and her husband and tell them about my relationship. I told my sister and she does not have a problem with me dating and she sometimes take off days @ work so that i can have time with my bf. She said there's no problem if he visits me. TNK U A LOT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): Please contact the local center for exploited women and children to get help if you have no family or friends. If you provide your town name there may be some one who can find a local center for you. You are in South Africa?
Do not move in with the boyfriend just to get away from your situation. That is not the solution.
http://www.famsa.org.za
http://www.safe4all.org/resource-list/index?category=98
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): Why are you afraid to tell your sister and her husband? Do they often say no to your requests? Are they abusive towards you? if so, I think you have to accept that you will not be getting their blessing and that you have to take a stand and exercise your independence even though it will mean getting them upset at you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo i don't have any relative around here in this town and don't have proper friends. I've told my boyfriend about the situation of me being a slave and he really is trying to help me. He asked me to move in with me. But the problem is that people will talk behind my back and say i left home for a man. Yes he is financially stable and can take good care of me but i'm scared. Should i move in with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): Do you have friends or other family with whom you could stay?
Please let us know that you are safe when you have determined your course of action.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u guys. As SaraEnity said, it's more like slavery because they have empty promises. They don't pay me for baby-sitting and don't buy me toiletries. Both my parents are dead. I guess i should do as Sara says. Thank you for your input!
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth +, writes (1 October 2012):
Are you financially dependent on your sister? Where are your parents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): Are you a slave? Are you paid for providing childcare services to them?What is there to "confess"? Are you in danger from your brother-in-law?Tell your sister that you are in a relationship now and will not be able to continue the arrangement. She will need to make alternate childcare service arrangements.You are under no obligation to divulge more than this information to her.At the age of 18-21, you are legally an adult. You may make your own decisions. One of those decisions is where to live. It is time to become an independent adult.If the circumstance is that you are forced to labor in an unpaid servitude and fear physical harm from your relative, you should contact a local women's shelter to obtain emergency housing. Report your brother-in-law to the police if necessary. Slavery is illegal.
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