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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 21, and I'm just graduating from college. My boyfriend is 23 and we've been dating for about a year and a half. We met in College when he was doing his masters and so we actually lived in each other's dorms pretty much all the time. I have no doubt that I want to live with him, I've weighed all the pros and cons in my head, the only problem is breaking the news to my parents. I'm worried because I have accommodation settled but it's my uncle's flat and so far my parents think I'm going to be living there alone when I graduate. I will be doing a masters degree so I wont have a job just yet. My parents are very conservative Catholics and they don't agree with living together or even sleeping in the same bed really. I'm just really tired of hiding this from them because I do love my parents and I want to be able to share my boyfriend with my family. It doesn't help that my parents keep saying I shouldn't be serious with my bf. I know they think he's not "conventionally handsome" but he is to me. I need to find a way to make my parents see my boyfriend the way I do and be ok with him living with me..... sorry for rambling.... been thinking about this for months and I'm still stuck. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 I would just be very forward with them that you two are going to be living together and although you respect their values they need to understand that they are not your own. It's better to get it all out at once so that they can take the time to get over it in one big lump sum and then move on with it. If you drag it out then it might be many small awkward times instead of just one.
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