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writes:I miss-carried at 8 weeks but lied to my mother who doesn't care enough to make sure i have prenatal care. I'm naturally heavier than most females my age(17)so it has been easy to play it off. Now at this moment I'm supposed to be 35 weeks pregnant but as I said before I miss-carried at 8 weeks. She's expecting a baby and has been purchasing clothing and other items. How can i tell her the truth? What's the best way to handle the situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 August 2012):
 First off, I'm sorry for your loss. A miscarriage is never easy.
You should have told her the moment it happened. A miscarriage these days is not just due to no prenatal care, specially not in the Western World. No reason to blame anyone.
So the sooner you tell her the better.
Sometimes these things just happen. I had a miscarriage at 25 and I was healthy and fit. It happened at 6 weeks.
Why on EARTH would you pretend to be pregnant when you aren't?I have heard of young girls pretending they AREN'T pregnant all the way up til the time they give birth, but not the other way around.
And next time around, make sure you can take care of yourself and your doctor's visits.
Talk to your mom. Get it done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've had medical care since then. Also I didn't tell her because at the time she had kicked me out of the house because of me being pregnant.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 You should have told her the truth long before now, I am unsure why you felt you had to hide this for so long from her? Maybe you were scared, but at the end of the day she is expecting a grandchild to come out any day now and it is not fair on her, especially if she is paying money to buy clothes and stuff for the baby. This really is cruel if you let it go on any further. I am sorry that you lost your baby, it really is sad but you need to be honest with your mother it is the only thing you can do, expect her to be angry because you have hide this for so long, but explain to her why you done this and hopefully you can both sort this out.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 she's buying baby clothes, that suggests to me she does care. Your hormones are still all out of whack, which could be influencing your feelings about your mother. Bite the bullet and tell her you miscarried, if you haven't sought a medical checkup since the miscarriage, ask her to take you to a doctor or clinic.
If she says no, then come back here.
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