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writes:I am 18, my mom and I do not get along most of the time. How do I tell her that I want to move in with my boyfriend wthout hurting her feelings, and making her think I want her out of my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Before you do this, have a think about your reasons to move in with your boyfriend. Is it just to get away from your mum? In this case, it would maybe be better to get a place of your own, or share with others, if it's independence you want.
If you do decide to go ahead, tell your mum you do love her and will still see her and phone her. You may get on better if you don't live in the same place, appreciate each other more - maybe you could say that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You: Mum I'm old enough now to make my own decisions about life and me and my boyfriend have thought this through and discussed it. I love you and love being with you, but I love my boyfriend and want to be with him... We're moving in together. We have our own place to stay and we can afford to pay the bills. I hope you can understand, I hope you can be happy for me. I'd love you to come and visit, I will still and come and visit you. I'd like you to help me, I need your support....
Her: Why you ungratefull little cow......... After all I've done.... wasted my best years..... thinks she's an adult.... he'll probably leave you anyway.....
You: Mum, I'm sorry you feel that way. I still love you, you'll see me soon. I'm just not happy here. I love him and I miss him, I think I can be happy with him.... I love you mum and nobody can take your place. But I'm moving out with my boyfriend and this is something that you will have to learn to accept.
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