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writes:Heyy, I've gotta question regarding my one of my friends. Im at college and i've recently been considering leaving because of it, even though it sounds a bit stupid. I've known him for nearly two years, and since that time his just started to upset me a bit. I feel he keeps putting me down, even if it is in a jokey way. I suffer with social anxiety disorder and clinical depression, but recently i've started to get a lot better with it through therapy, so now I sort of like to piss about a bit with my other mates lolSometimes, like yesterday, us two and a few others went up town to get some cigarettes, but then we all decided to go in the clothes shops and muck about trying on all the clothes and stuff, and everytime i'd mess about about or tried on like a pair of sunglasses, he'd always make some snide comment, always going 'c*** this' and 'c*** that' lol. Its all good to joke about it and stuff, but at the end of the day it just gets really boring :/. But he never joins in with anything, and I feel he does it because im having a fun time and his not.Sorry if this sounded like a rant haha, but just needed to talk about it somewhere :/. But basically i'd really like know how i'd go about politely telling him to sort of stop putting me down as much. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Politely you could say: "Do you realise how much you hurt my feeling when you say stuff like (example of something he's said)? Please cut it out it's not how friends should treat one another"
If politely doesn't work: "Mate feck off and leave me the hell alone, you are rude and abusive and I don't want anything more to do with you!"
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reader, goowes  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Just say "that is not okay." or "Stop" or " I don't dig that". Don't change your life for people that have issues, he has just as many as you, we all have the same, help him to be better if possible, use this as practice for it again in the future, learn how to brave up and confront, it seems hard but its like a vegetable, tastes bad, good for you. Get a verbal abuse book and get the book about anxiety from Lucinda Bassett it will change your life.
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