How do I tell my friend of my feelings without letting others get in the way?

I've been completely in love with a friend of mine for almost a year. When we hang out, it's like magic. I can't see myself with anyone else but her. The problem is, she is best friends with another guy. I am scared that something is happening or will happen between them. It frustrates me that even though they are friends they are really close and I am a little jealous. It's like he's the number one guy in her life. I suspect that she knows I like her because it's probably completely obvious. And yet, we're still good friends. I love her dearly and never want to lose her. I believe we could have a great relationship. I want to tell her exactly how I feel, but I'm afraid it is going to come out too weird or creepy. There are times when I think she likes me, like she smiles when talking to me. But other times, I could swear she doesn't. People have told me to just man up and tell her, but her friendship is too important to me that I don't know if I should risk it. Another problem is that we are both college students with busy lives and there isn't any time! It's hard to even find time to hang out as it is. I think about her all the time and I even write poems about her. I'm 18, I've never kissed a girl and it bothers me! I'm very confused. Should I wait and let the friendship grow? should I just tell her soon? Or should I drop the entire case as hopeless and not tell her at all? If I do tell her, how do I go about this without letting time/life/other people get in the way?

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