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writes:I want to try but I'm not sure if it will work. I fell hard for my exbf and I put my all into it but he was like whatever. Anyway he broke it off and of course I did the woe is me I can't go on without you. Any I hated him more and more the longer time went by because I would always think about how I was so good to him and how he always seemed to get a rush out of making me feel like no guy would ever want me because I was stupid or dumb or pitiful or just nothing.He went on like nothing happened. I saw him around a few times with other girls and he we taunt me and smirk. He really just couldn't give an elephants ass.Fast forward I joined a gym and met a real fun guy. He's what you could call a mommas boy. Well him and me are like white on rice thick as theives thin. We have a regular routine. He works I work and when we're off work he's either at my apartment or me at his. This has been going in for about 6 months but there's been nothing between us. He kinda hints but I kinda play it off and bring up my exbf to get him to stop.Well my exbf's been calling and he wants to get back with me. He cries and I kinda believe he's being honest about how he knows where he messed up and didn't act right with me. He never cried before so this makes me believe he's being straight up. Then maybe he's just jealous because two days before he started calling me he saw me with edward.I don't know if I should give him another chance. He's done this before when I wanted him and he didn't man up. Now I don't feel anything for him not even anger. Just indifferent.I can't see myself without my best friend Colin and if I try it with edward I will not be able to see colin in the way we are now.In my heart I don't feel anything anymore for my exbf. I don't know if I will ever get those feeling back or will I just not even put forth the effort. I gave my all to him and he left me empty but edward doesn't require effort. It's just smooth bumpless sailing.I kinda wish edward would find a woman that he falls head over heals for and forget I loved him that way.Should I just tell the way I feel? I need to handle this soon and I don't want him to keep coming around. I have a different life now and his way of life is not interesting to me so it will be an effort faking like I'm into it.How do I get rid of edward but not hurt his feelings. I just want this all tied up and over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Send Edward on his merry way. He had his chance and screwed it up. He's just jealous that you're not all about him anymore. Colin outshines Edward. He's a giver not a taker. Edward is yucky poop!
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (9 December 2010):
First I beleive you shouldn't consider Edwards feelings over yours. Edward hurt you. And if you feel nothing for him, by not telling him he won't move on and you'll just be both hurting each other.
Here's an optional suggestion. Poor your heart out to Colin about this problem. Things like this can really help bring a connection between people.
As far as the Mamma's boy part, that could be seen as a good thing. Some of the great leaders of our time have been Mamma's boys. It's very easy for a good woman to push a Mamma's to be that strong supporter that you need - if he wants to change. And Mamma's boys are one of the only types of men that will take the hints. Give him hints how to do this and you'll find him catching on quickly.
Good luck!
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