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writes:I have to tell my dad i'm pregnant tonight, and I havn't got a clue how to start the conversation. How would you react if your 17 year old daughter told you she was pregnant? I took precautions, and still ended up in this situation, so i'm hoping that whilst it's going to be a shock, he will understand...i've also got the joy of telling him it's due on christmas day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Just to let you guys know, I told him, and I'm in complete shock. He didn't raise his voice at me at all, didn't tell me I was stupid, he said he was upset that my future prospects may not be possible, but that he couldn't criticise me because that would make him hypocritical as he got my mother pregnant t the same age. He's not annoyed at my boyfriend in the slightest, which is great news as they get on so well. He offered his full support towards my decision, and said that he was proud of me for being so brave. I really could not be happier. A huge thank you for all your comments, and for the congratulations. The people on this site make petrifying experiences like this a whole lot brighter :)
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reader, chazx +, writes (29 April 2009):
 1st off hunny Congratulations and extra congratulations cos the beautiful baby is due on christmas day :):):)
I was 17 when i found out i was pregnant and 18 when she was born (even tho she was due before my 18th) lol and i told my dad via text haha and my mum via msn (but i didnt live with them so was a bit harder to tell em face to face when ur 50 miles away).
Sit him down say "dad i am really scared to tell you this because i don't want you to be disappointed in me, and i want you to know i did everything in my power to try and make sure this didnt happen but i am pregnant and i'm keeping the baby".
In all honesty if my 17 year old came home saying she was pregnant i woluld probably cry as i know how hard it is but maybe some of those tears would be joy for her entering a new paragraph in her life.
I cant actually say how i would feel tho till it actually happens but above it just my guess.
Good luck email if needed
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (29 April 2009):
 I think you need to emphasize the fact that you took precautions before you get to the point. Are you pregnant by a boyfriend? A friend? A fling? If it's a boyfriend then all the better. I hope your Dad's not angry because it's not your fault. Thank God you're legal as well =]
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reader, the secret  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 to be honest there is no easy way to tell your father you pregnant,as a father he is going to feel disappointed and he might shout at you and make you feel bad but thats only because you young and being a mother is a huge responsibility.the best way is to just be straight and say it.after the shouting he will come around and he will give you the support you need not only as a mother to be but as a daughter he loves...
goodluck hope all goes well
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): My daughter turns sixteen here shortly, so it's a question I've thought about, believe me.
My attitude is "what's the worst thing that can happen." That list starts with death, and goes down the list to incurable disease and so on. From that perspective, pregnancy isn't that bad. Oh, it's a big deal, it's undesirable and all that, but there are lots of worse things than can happen.
If you can get your Dad into that frame of mind, that worse things could happen, and then spring the news on him, the conversation should go a bit more easily.
I do wish you luck.
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reader, Problem2Solution +, writes (29 April 2009):
There is no easy way to answer this question. If my daughter was in this situation I think my first reaction would be anger. I would probably be angry that she had ended up in this situation and angry that her childhood would be cut short. My anger would also be a bit selfish in that I would be thinking of the impact on the whole family.You know your Dad and how understanding he is or isn't going to be but in my experience once the initial shock has worn off, most parents are actually very supportive.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): You come in tonight and say
"Hi Dad! Guess what? I'm going to save you some money!" He'll ask how that could possibly be, and then you say
"My baby is due on Christmas Day, so you can mark some of his presents as birthday presents, and the rest Christmas presents - how convenient is that?"
Best of luck - I hope he's not too shocked. Better get him to sit down first.
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