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How do I tell my boyfriend what I want?

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Question - (14 February 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 February 2015)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi (please no negative words)

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and things are amazing between us but....I want to give him head, want to sleep without underwear on, want to also bring him out of his "close the door and get dressed" thing but I dont know how to go about it....someone help me?

My previous relationship was 2.5 years and I got treated like dirt so I guess I'm thinking that I dont want to ruin my new relationship.

my boyfriend is 20, im 21. My ex was three years older then me.

I would talk to him about it but dont know how to....

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (15 February 2015):

Honeypie agony auntSince you live with him AND his mom (which mean... you LIVE at his mom's house) - I don't think sleeping naked is entirely appropriate.

Why not get a cute little silk/satin baby doll number to sleep in?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2015):

Thank you for the advice.

my friends think i should just do it. On a camping trip he mentioned he doesnt like pajamas or dressing gowns so i should of said "well i dont like sleeping in underwear.

I forgot to add that i live with him and his mum (he doesnt know his dad)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2015):

If your boyfriend has conservative-values and might be a little stuffy; if you've known each other only five months, get to know him better before pulling out all the stops.

Like Honeypie says, why can't you just sleep with no underwear if you want to? Unless he has specifically objected to it. If you don't have the privacy to do all the sexy things you want; then I guess you might need to follow his decency guidelines. You've got plenty of time to introduce the spice, and it keeps things hot when you do something special now and then spread-out over time; not all at once.

My suspicion is that he wouldn't object to it. He's got you

up on a pedestal; and feels he's paying you respect by making you close the door when dressing. If you've never given him head before, that might be a nice surprise when you are about to make love. Don't make a big announcement of what you're about to do of it, just do it. What's he going to say? NO?!! I doubt it. Just don't come-on too strong if he was a virgin when you met him, or just happens to be a conservative-guy who thinks a nice-girl behaves a certain way. He will learn someday that nice-girls are just being cute and sexy when they're naughty just for you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (14 February 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYou should be able to talk to him about these things, if you can HAVE sex with a guy, you can open your mouth and express how you feel.

However, DO NOT bring the ex into the chat. The ex has nothing to do with your current relationship.

As for sleeping naked, JUST do it. He may NOT be a fan, but that is OK. IF you want to sleep naked, go for it.(and may I add, UNLESS you are sleeping over at his parents or your parents house, but at your own place).

If you two are naked in bed getting hit and heavy, you don't have to ask him to give him "head" you just start kissing him moving south... I doubt he will complain, though if he does... then stop.

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