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writes:I think I love my boyfriend's brother, and I don't know whether I should tell him or not?? I want to so bad, cuz I hate hiding my feelings, BUT I do not want to cause drama between family. Its getting to the point where I really dont care though... I know that sounds really bad, and very selfish... but I can't live a lie any more. All I know is this is really hard and something that's never happened to me before. I know what's gonna happen, cause I've been reading a lot of other questions similar to this, and realizing it's effed up, so I'm pretty much prepared for the worst. All I wanna know is the right way to go about this???? Reply to this Question
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reader, Katy-Jane  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I see where you are coming from but you are just going to have to be true to yourself and your feelings for this person, the longer you leave it the harder it is going to be to tell your boyfriend and the more hurt he will be. Just tell him straight as you said you can't keep living a lie! Good luck with what ever you chose to do and i hope it all turns out okayy for you :D x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Well I am in the exact same situation....only thing is, I know my boyfriend loves me, and know his brother does not (but he might one day!). I just know that while they aren't close, I would never have a chance with his brother because of the relationship I have with my boyfriend. The thing is, if I knew his brother was cool with it all, I would prefer the brother!!! Just stick to your boyfriend, or for your sanity's sake, just break up with your BF and start anew....because the desires will NEVER go away!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hi, You have these feelings for your boyfriend's brother, okay now what? I totally agree with qcumbr, break the relationship off with your boyfriend, and go on your way. Your boyfriend's brother could never find it in his heart to take up with you, besides, you don't even know if he likes you in that way. The other thing is, the brother would look at you, and wonder, who you might be taking a fancy to next, no joke. You don't love your boyfriend, move on and don't look back, the fact that you even think that you could have a satisfactory relationship with the brother, is indicitive of you not thinking this through. Because you don't care if it causes trouble does not mean that the entire family of the boyfriend, will not care. Too much drama, my dear. Find another family to join, you are going to wind up being disliked intensely by this one, if you confess your feelings for the brother. Take care and good luck.
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