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writes:Hi I'm 16 and i have a crisis I guess you could say. I feel very attracted to a 27 year old man. the thing is he used to work at my school as hall patrol. he plays football for a county team and i feel obligated to go to his games to cheer him on. when he came to visit my school my face lit up and i ran over to him and he gave me a hug saying he misses me. When he said that while hugging me i felt "loved". It wasnt just a hug. it was a tight reassuring longer than normal hug. I think about him all day and night. I dont know what to do and when i try to get one of his friends to contact him for me it never seems to happen. i feel like i need to see him and tell him how i feel to get it off of my chest. i havent seen him since that hug i recieved which was 2 months ago. i feel like there is a connection between us. but how could there be when we barely see each other? please send me some advice i really need it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he is not married and he doesnt have a girlfriend but he does have a young daughter. i still dont know what to do and i miss him so much. his friend isnt helping me at all. he said maybe he isnt getting in contact with you because "your a student" that never stopped him before though. ugh!!!!!
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reader, lil'shade +, writes (29 November 2008):
Girl you got a crush on him. He see's you as one of his fans. He might does like you but not in the way you would hope. I'm 16 too so I know what your going through. I have crushes all the time lol. :)
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reader, aunty mel  +, writes (29 November 2008):
I think it can be really easy to confuse simple, everyday displays of affection with true feelings of love. This is particularly true when the object of your affection is someone older, in a position of some power or influence over you. As this guy is 27 you should be entitled to think that he would be emotionally aware enough to actually come out and tell you if his feelings for you were more than those of friendship. By that age he's probably had way more experience relationship-wise than you so he should have a vague idea of what he wants and how to get it. If he hasn't said it outright then walk away, spend time with your friends, give yourself a chance to meet a guy your own age and share that magical early love feeling with. You deserve it.
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