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writes: I'm in love with a guy who has bad b.o. and I don't know how to tell him. He smokes alot of pot so I think he doesn't remember to put deorderant on. Do you think I should bring it up to him? If so how?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 Gently does it as they say!!! There is a girl who sits opposite me at work and she smells of sweat so badly its awful, I have tried to be subtle and I discovered the reason she smells like that is because she doesnt use deoderant, her excuse it irritates her!!! Well I said, why dont you use Dove for sensitve skin, she says, no I just dont use it full stop, all of them irritate. Now her problem is that she just reeks of sweat, she, like me changes her clothes every day, she has a different outfit on everyday, but maybe she has a medical condition, cos the BO is rank and I like her as a person so I dont want to hurt her feelings, but you need to just try and tell him in a non insulting way. Fortunately for me, I dont have to tell her now, cos she is leaving in 2 days, but part of me wants to tell her so that someone else doesnt come out and say it harshly to her. It bothers me because I wear a whole bottle of body spray and deodarant on myself just to drown out her BO, cos attractive men walk past every millisecond and I dont want them to think its me!!!! Try and bring up subtle hints, I tried it with this girl, and at least I established why she stinks so bad, the weird thing is, she says she wouldnt date a man who is sweaty, OH MY GOSH!!!! How ironic!!!!!! Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): i would tell him that smells cos he's a lazy stoner and if he wants any chance of "getting close", shall we say, he needs to at least get a can of deo and then jump in the bath with him, i assure you he won't forget to wash in the future
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 Tell him clearly, but nicely. You don't need to be unpleasant, and say stuff like 'you stink'. Just say something like "When you forget to shower and use deodorant you end up smelling unpleasant. Which is not nice. Could you try to remember to keep clean? I'm going to keep reminding you if you don't".
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 Just buy him some strong, long-lasting deo, and tell him he stinks!
If he can't laugh it off with you, then he has no sense of humour.
And if he has no sense of humour, what's the point being together anyhow? Consider - how much respect has he got for you if he can't even take a shower before he see's you!?
Just say, as you hand it over - "I got you this cos you stink"... Yup, That outta do it!
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (13 September 2006):
 You need to tell him. I worked with a guy who smelled like a dead cat in a dirty mop bucket. I had to sit next to him, so I dont know how you can live with him or get close to him.
You should maybe carry a tin of deodorant with you and spray the offender when he gets close. He will soon get the message.
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reader, SIMPLELIFE +, writes (13 September 2006):
ok be honest with him. just tell him he stinks and your not sure if its something he is putting on his hair, shower
soap or what but it smells like body orders and it is bothering your allergys.
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reader, SabreWolf +, writes (13 September 2006):
The fact that you're tolerating your boyfriend's breaking the law concerns me more than your toleration of his body odor - especially considering you're trying to excuse his actions (or rather, inaction) via his engaging in stupid acts. My opinion is that you need to light a fire under his butt and get him to shape up or ship out. Tell him straight out; pretend you're a big, sassy, southern black woman. He needs to wash up and become decent and tolerable to be around. But seriously, if he can't remember to put on deodorant, such a basic function of simple hygiene, do you really expect him to remember the important things like your birthday, dates, or anything else?
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reader, gracie lou +, writes (13 September 2006):
 i say, just randomly get him a can of axe body spray and just say that your brother or someone uses it and that you think it smells amazing and that you think he should use it. just make it casual and dont make a big deal out of it
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