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30-35,
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writes:ok so this guy asked suggested we go out somewhere next week during half term, like as in a date and im really nervous about it. all my friends are pushing me forward saying this is a really good opportunity because we both like each other but i just cant even imagine the scenario. i have those silly thought girls have like not being able to eat infront of him and things, we sort of decided to go to the cinema sometime but i cant even look him in the eye anymore. everything i seem to cringe at, i have 0 confidence levels right now.. my friend it having a party at the end of next week and he and all his friends are going - i think this would be a much better environment to get to know him seeing as i'd have my friends for support too.. we havent set an actually date for this trip but i want to just go to my friends party and see how its goes... how can i tell him this without him thinking im ditching the idea? i'm really confused and my head can't really deal with this right now - thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Ok well if you are really that petrified and you realy dont think that you can go through with it then just casually say to him that you will meet him at the party and you can both make arrangements then to go out.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Well don't knock the idea until you go to the party with your friends and mingle with him a little more. The problem is you don't really know him and aren't comfortable being around him or the idea of a first date. When I was your age, I rarely went on dates where I was alone with the guy. What I did was make it a double date and invite one of my friends, and he would invite one of his. That way no one was the awkward third wheel. Plus, you still have a lot to talk about with 3 other people. And your comfort level is stable because you have the support of your friend. Just suggest this idea to him at the party and see what he says.
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