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How do I tell him I need some time to myself?

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Question - (16 August 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 16 August 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

My boyfriend of 10 months seems to want to spend every second with me, everyday. I enjoy spending time with him but it seems like we dont do anything, we just hang out. How can i have my own space, but still spend time with him? And how do i tell him i need some time to myself?

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A male reader, Dazzerg United Kingdom +, writes (16 August 2006):

Dazzerg agony auntI think you need to be firm and clear. You obviously know this guy better than me or anybody else but its possible he is very insecure. As such you need to be gentle and subtle as well as asserting yourself encourage him to take up and do things with his own space too.

He may wrongly take the assertion of your own space as a form of rejection so you also need to cushion the blow if you can by the positives of how you feel about him. Reassure him in that way but dont let him wriggle around you.

I also think there are two seperate issues here; you having your own space and how you use the time you do spend together. Maybe you can take the lead in suggesting something that you want to do; maybe a movie you want to see for the next time you spend together. Hope that helps. Take care.

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