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writes:I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months now and the physical chemistry between us is now very strong. I did not notice his attraction towards me for some time. He has been doing loads of things to help me.My question is that we seem to be stuck in a limbo. He does not know how I feel about him. Or maybe he does by my body language! However, how do I tell him i want to move the relationship on without making myself look desperate? I was hoping he would have made the move first.I will be moving away from where he is soon and he has my e-mail address but I have not got any link to him (apart from his work). people at his work know me so it may be rather embarrassing.Any suggestions welcomed. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for answering. I agree with what you say. Time is not on my side. Better to have loved then never to have loved at all.
I will try and get him out for a quite talk. I use to work with him and I got the feeling that some people, particularly his PA, must have picked up on the attraction. It was becoming quite obvious the way he would drop things for me and the amount of lengthly meetings we would have and the way he would fuss over me prior to a meeting e.g. offering tea and coffee which is not a regular thing he does with other members of staff. the way he would stare at me in all staff meetings. Its all the little things I have noticed and staff have noticed.
How can I just let this go. It would be stupid.
Thanks again everyone.
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reader, LisaSE  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Direct might be hard, but you can be a little subtle. "I'm moving away, but I really like you and would really like to keep in contact. Maybe we could arrange to go out Friday nights..." or whatever! I had a guy problem: I liked him, but I was chicken. Well, here in Montreal, I don't know if you're aware, but we have some infrastructure problems. Eventually, I realized life was short and just up and sent him an email! Actually, the result was fantastic: it turns out he's gay, so everything easy and we still keep in touch as friends! I love it! C'mon! You got nothing to lose!
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 I think you're at the age when you can have a mature, serious conversation with that guy, so there's nothing wrong with just telling him, especially now, that you'll be moving away from him. Just be honest, without being afraid of rejection. People come and people go.
And why do you say it would be embarrassing for you, that people from his work know you? Do you have a bad name or something?
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reader, aunty laurla  +, writes (13 August 2010):
Ive read studies that most men like the girls to take the first step, in your situation this may be the case.... forget wht every one else thinks and do what you want. After all you should be looking out for number one and thts you! Dont leave yourself thinking what if, its worth a shot. :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 August 2010):
Sometimes, you just need to take a chance.
I know it's easier said than done, but there's no way to be sure, but to simply ask.
Stop caring about so and so and what they might think. They're NOT important. What's important is your feelings for this man and knowing whether he feels the same. If you don't take the chance and he slips out of your life, you will be left wondering "what if..?"
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