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writes: Age difference I'm a currently single 42 year old guy who, I guess, has been blessed with a bit of a "baby face". I also keep myself in shape, and even my hair is still pretty much it's natural colour (that is, next to no greying). Many people pretty much think I am in my late 20s.Including a girl working at my local supermarket who would be maybe 21/22. I can't help feeling we've both become attracted to each other over the last year, through our regular friendly chats at the check out! I'm really getting the feeling lately that she'd like "something to happen", but fear she thinks I'm 28/29 or whatever, but certainly not 42.Just putting aside the potential issues of an age-gap relationship for now, my biggest concern is how to actually "break" the news to her that I am in fact 42!! I mean should I make sure she is sitting in a very comfortable chair that she couldn't possibly fall off, when I tell her?! ;) Seriously though, any advice on how to go about telling her? I'm sure she would be quite surprised. To put it mildly!! Cheers :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2006): Look dear...she's an adult-you're an adult. I see no problem-just tell her and come clean as quickly as possible. If it's simply the idea of the age gap, the years don't matter. As long as you feel connected to her and she does to you. I'm not a proponent of teen-adult age gap relationships but in your case, this is two adults connecting on a level, that many people don't find.
Age gap relationships can present problems but I feel it's dependent on the emotional maturity levels of the two people involved. Sometimes we get too hung up on age. We convince ourselves that the difference in age is a huge problem between adults. In all relationships, being closer in age does not always guarantee success. Look at the divorce rates. My whole point is, if it's love and happiness and you really are connecting with this young woman..go for it. Life is just too short. What matters most is that you found someone caring and loving..a potential love partner with whom you might belong together. Love is a risk, you don't know how'll she'll react but I suggest you tell her your age, start this relationship off on an honest, strong footing, enjoy what you have with her and see where it leads. Good luck
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (3 January 2006):
 I think you just need to be honest really. Ask her how old she thinks you are. You may be surprised and find out that she actually thinks you are older than what you think she thinks, which therefore won't be a problem for her if she likes you (hope that made sense!)
Simply be truthful with her. Explain you like her and how old you are and whether she might consider the age difference to be a problem. If she doesn't think the age gap to be an issue, then discuss where to go on your first date!
Good luck.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (3 January 2006):
 Dearie, i agree with u if u are thinking of having anything more to do with her then u have to tell her and hopes she accepts that. You cant afford to be deceptive cos she might always find out and it would be worse than u telling her.
Goodluck
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