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writes:Ok, so I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a month now and we're at second base. Neither of us are that experienced sexually, and so we're just taking things slowly.I'll be blunt with my language and say that I've fingered her a fair number of times now, whereas she has only helped me out, so to speak, 3 times.Quite often however, she's started rubbing my cock but then stops.This isn't that big a deal to me really, but how can I get her to know that I'd like some pleasure too sometimes, without being rude, hurting her feelings, freaking her out, or seeming pushy?Any suggestions please?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Maybe she's still sort of scared of the prospect of the results? Inexperience and lack of familiarity with body fluids can be intimidating. You, being a guy, will think nothing of the production of seminal fluid but it might be intimidating to her, think of that?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 Shortly after she stops, with a gentle voice and calm face, ask her, "Honey, that feels so good when you are touching me. I just have been wondering something. Why do you stop?"
Then listen to what she has to say. Calm, gentle, loving; that is your demeanor for this discussion. Remember you may hear something you may not like, so be prepared for it, okay?
Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 She already knows you would want some pleasure, too, only is not willing to go that far yet. Telling her that you would really appreciate the thing could help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): We girls can be quite sensitive about this sort of thing when we feel inexperienced or unconfident in what we're trying to do. The best thing you can do in this situation is next time she tries to (for lack of a better word) stimulate you then let her know that she's doing it right by gently telling her that it feels good, if she doesn't know what she's doing then gently guide her to the right place or rhythm, grip etc.
Just keep encouraging her in the most gentle way possible or you might risk making her feel under pressure - and there's no bigger turn-off than feeling pressured.
Hope that helped a bit!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): When she does rub you down there say it feels good, when she doesn't say a like it when you rub me down there it turns me on, she will relise that you like it when she does that and will obviously do it to you as she wants you to be turned on when your making out.
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