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writes:My boyfriend has really been upsetting me lately. The relationship is only new and he already expects me to start sharing sexual fantasies and thoughts with him...though I am not comfortable doing so because I am still a virgin and have never opened up/talked to anyone in this way before...When I explain this he just starts threatening me with other girls and putting me down - which only leaves me less willing to open up.We have also had other problems and no matter what I say regarding our issues, he tells his friend everything. I have told him I am really upset and feel uncomfortable about this but he doesn't really care, he says he will still tell his friend anyway. I am feeling as if it's his way or the highway at the moment, and as if he is being really selfish and not at all caring for my feelings. What do I do? How do I talk to this unreasonable man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): You'll never be able to talk to him. He will always be that way. It's still early in your relationship, so leave now while you still can. The longer you go on in the relationship, the worse it'll be.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (22 August 2009):
 Trust is a big part of a relationship and he has violated yours. I wouldn't waste time on this guy, he neither respects you, or is trustworthy. What's next, putting your worst pictures/worst videos on youtube so you can be publicly humiliated? It's time to move on. He's selfish and immature and doesn't deserve you.
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reader, goodwoman  +, writes (22 August 2009):
You can not reason with an unreasonable person. Read this and reread it. It is a very simple sentence yet many people do not understand this very simple statement. When you try to reason with an unreasonable person you are attempting to put logic where none exists. Therefore, you can not reason with an unreasonable individual. You are better off having a conversation with a table at that point. Save yourself the frustration, hurt, and emotional stress......by not even attempting to do so. Anything you say will be fodder for him to tell his friend. You will end up feeling frustrated that you could not get your message across. When you come across an individual like this it is best to walk away. This person just happens to be someone you thought you could have a relationship with. There are many people in the world that are unreasonable (meaning that they lack logic to understand). Additionally, having someone pressure you into anything is wrong. This is called bullying. It only gets worse from here.
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