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writes:I go to this coffee shop alot to study and there is always a couple cute girls there and i always want to go up to them and talk to them but i don't ever know what to say to not seem like a creeper or a weirdo. any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 November 2012):
 Next time buy then a round of cookies and have it sent to their table :)
If they have any manners they will thank you and then you can strike up a conversation. Just don't expect long existential conversations to start out with, just some simple chit-chat :)
Always make it short and sweet - that way they will want more next time :)
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (24 November 2012):
Hi dear,
If I was you, I'd just have them get to know you gradually. Like, maybe one day you coud ask them for a pen or something, then borrow it, bring it back and say thank you. No big conversation, just so they can see you and realize that you're not a creep. Then maybe, the next time you see them, you can say hi again and so on. Girls in a group can be difficult to approach, so maybe if you see one or two of the girls outside of the shop you will find an excuse to talk to them shortly.
Don't try to be extra smart or extra funny, you don't have to come up with a great opener or anything. Also, big compliments are not appropriate if you don't know someone yet.
Once you've initiated contact, you should not be silent again the next time you see them, or you'll lose the contact you've established. This unfortunately happened to me after I got the cute starbucks barista to talk to me :/
All the best to you and remember, it's good to practise your talk-to-girls skills now. Even if you fail, at least you're getting more experienced and will do better next time. Don't blame yourself if it doesn't work out straight away.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (24 November 2012):
 Hi
You wont come over as creepy unless you go up and say 'hey nice boobs' - which I am sure you won't.
Just start casual if they are customers, say hi, you here for the bad coffee again too, something to show you've noticed them.. they either carry on the chat or not.
If they work there its easy, just ask their name or if they are students too.The thing is to keep it casual or light, then if they don't want to carry on the chat you dont look daft and no face is lost.
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