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writes:Ok, Men: tell me this: how do you persuade, coax, or otherwise make a man want to have another baby with you if he is totally against it?I am open to all suggestions. How do I get him to change from thinking it is the last thing he wants, to it being his greatest desire and intention?That should tax everyone's brains : ) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): If he doesn't want another child then why are you bothering him about it? No one should be forced into parenthood if they don't want to.
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reader, lungalele  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Whatever u do, please do not push him into anything bcoz that may not be the best thing as it may bring tension into ur relationship
Just try to make him aware that it would mean a lot to u to hv the baby then its his decision from there. I definately trust that its his priority to make u happy bcoz ur happiness is definately his. Please try not to talk about it more than once because that may annoy him. A man listens and ignore to digest what he hears and later comes with the answer. He will come around, trust me and good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 September 2010):
I don't have kids. But I know one thing. If I didn't want them, really didn't, nothing in the world would change my mind. A child, especially for anyone in their 40's who already have children, is going to be a strain. Not just financially, but physically.
The only thing you can do is talk to him and stress that you love him and would love another baby with him.
But don't hold your breath. When a man makes his mind up about something this big, usually that's it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Sorry that you feel so broody, as that's what this really amounts to, and YES I have children, but I do believe IF your desire for a baby over 40 is something that you have to beg, steal, borrow ( expression) into MAKING the man change his mind, then may you need to really ASK yourself what is driving your force..
Is it the fact, that at 41-50, your child bearing days are really coming to an end, and the fear of losing that forever is kick-starting your desire to be a mother again for the last time??? Only you know the answer to that.
No man should be manipulated or otherwise into having children he doesn't want - and nor should any woman, and for the greater part, when people are pushed, which is what it would be, putting pressure on him, discussing it until you think, talk about nothing else until he gives in- usually backfires. At 41-50 you have a wonderful opportunity to make the most of a loving relationship, ENJOY being a man and women together without all the demands of a child - they are for a lifetime, and for at least the next 20 years getting through university, that would make you perhaps mid to late 60's. Why not re-invent some magic, romance, go off travelling if you have no young children, anything that takes you and your partner back to the dating time in your life..it's a fantastic chance for this.
I'm with your husband on this one I'm afraid - so no I wouldn't be suggesting tactics to change his mind - may be if you were 25, but not over 40..practicalities have to come into play.
Sorry!
Jilly
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 The only way that I can think of that wouldn't be an evil manipulation is to let him know what it would mean to you to have another baby. Stress your love for him and hope he comes around. Given your age though it really isn't a great idea. The risks that come to your pregnancy get exponentially higher the older you get.
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