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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Before I met him, I was promiscuous for a few reasons. I really do enjoy it though. I've been called a nympho before. The point is, I have a past and my boyfriend knows about it. When someone warned him about that, he replied to them "How can she change if no one ever gives her a chance." I still think about that and cry every time I hear it.He's the best thing that has ever happened to me. He means so much to me and I want to be everything he deserves.I'm trying so hard to be committed to him and only him. I have not cheated on him in any way. (Kissing, touching, sexual contact, etc.) I haven't even hung out with any males that I didn't tell him about but I still feel guilty.I think about other men a lot. There's no one in specific that I'm pining over. I just think about what sexual encounters would be like with random people I encounter throughout my day. I try not to flirt, though I never know if I am unless others point it out, so I just try to avoid men.I'm just wondering if there's more I could do. Does it sound like I'm not committed to him? Should I calm down and let myself be proud that I haven't strayed?P.S. ~ Our sex life is good, not great, but good. We only have it once a week due to busy schedules. We experiment a lot. He's always open to my new suggestions. He's happy with me so it's not that I feel inadequate or anything.If anymore information is needed, please let me know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Good girl. I'm very proud of u, 'cos that couldn't be easy and u should feel proud of urself 2. Now about tur problem with promiscuity i suggest u see a councelor someone who can help u dig into the root of ur problem as this is not health at all. As there are a lot of diseases out there and dangerous people that can actually harm you. My best and only real advise i actually have for u is that Jesus is the way, the truth and life without him there is no life. So all in all see that you seek him and u'll see that all the past pains and hurt will be no more. Let Jesus be the foundation of your life nad your relationship. God bless you girlfriend.
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 October 2010):
 You're ont he right track. Think very carefully before you do anything to lose this guy, though. Guys who can get past a girl's promiscuous past are few and far between - and rightly so; it's very difficult to identify that small portion of promiscuous women who've truly reformed.
It's alright to fantasize a little, as long as you don't act on it. You seem to have that part down well enough. The trick at this point is to keep your guilt in perspective - if it keeps you from cheating, it's good; if it prevents you from enjoying the relationship you have, that's bad.
If it helps you to keep from straying remember this - sex partners are easily replaceable, but people who truly care about you are not. If you stray, it may be years before you find another guy willing to look beyond your past. If you're ever tempted to cheat for real, think of that. Best of luck to you.
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