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writes: Hi, recently i've finally come to the conclusion that having a certain person in my life is not a good idea anymore.I wish i could change that, believe me but i know i just have accept that it's not going to work.A little info: this guy is pretty manipulative and is pretty willing to cheat on his gf with me i however know that this can't carry on.So, now that i'm slowly starting to accept i need to keep him out of my life, i would like any advice/tips on how to go about this.I basically need a way of getting my willpower back so that when he tries talking to me online etc... i don't reply back. I have tried but always end up giving in. I really want and need to do this but i just don't know how.Any help would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): I totally agree with Odds. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, and the only solutions is to be strong.
As long as you've told him that it's over (and perhaps explain why, so he's not trying to contact you for annswers) and that you want him to leave you alone, the rest is up to you. Delete/block all his contact numbers/addresses.
If it helps, you could set yourself a personal target (goal), such as if you go for a week without repsonding to him, go out and treat yourself to something nice. You'll find that 'no contact' gets easier with time. Good luck!
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reader, Odds  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Don't let him tempt you. Politely inform him that you are done with him, and delete all his contact info. AIM name, phone number, everything. If he tries to contact you, ignore it and delete the callback number or text.
Taking half-measures will only result in failure in the long run. If you're not going to accept his advances anymore, you have to decisively stop any attempt to contact you the moment you learn of it, before you have time to rationalize it to yourself.
Your willpower is entirely under your control. Pretending otherwise will only hurt you and the poor girl he's dating.
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