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writes: Hi everyone.Im 17 and seem to run into the same guy at most partys or gatherings i go to. We've never really got on but recently we are really sarcastic towards each other, almost to the point of being rude? I've always said how much i dislike the guy and would be happy not to talk to him altogether, but he always comes over and starts a really awkward conversation, and i never really understand why.I'm not bigging myself up but i am quite attractive but have always been quite a booky person, ie school work etc is important to me. He is quite popular and part of me thinks he is taking the mick out of me, and another part thinks he is being slightly flirty.What does it spund like to you? Part of me does feel quite attracted to this guy.Next time i see him how do you recommend i stop the random arguments etc?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): Haha sounds great when you put it like that!
I'll keep you updated, thanks ;)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 I think he is slighty flirty - in fact, more than just slightly , but maybe he does not even know.
That's typical romantic comedy material :) The whole I hate you / I love you , I want to strangle you / I want to kiss you dynamics. Too bad that at your age you are probably too young to be a movie buff, but go see some old movies with Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy and you'll see what I mean. Or Rock Hudson and Doris Day .
And " Gone with the Wind " ? remember how much did Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler bicker ?
You are tryng to get each other's goat to hide a lot of sexual tension and mutual curiosity, It would not be cool for you just go through the phases of a normal courtship, because he's the popular party boy that supposedly wants nothing to do with Miss Booky Good Grades... and viceversa. But, you both want to get a reaction out of the other , and his ( and yours ! ) barbs and sarcasms are a covert ( but not so covert ) way to impress the other.
Arguments ? No, do not let it degenerate into arguments, who wants to really argue at a pary ?, it's like a game, keep it light and breezy and tongue in cheek, no need to become too serious and heavy, particularly now that you know why he is needling you. But don't become all of a sudden all meek and fawning, I am sure he gets enough of that from the other girls, and he noticed you because you are a challenge, unusual, and sort of a hard nut to crack. So keep giving as good as you get - with a touch of flirtiness. That should bring the hidden attraction to the boiling point , when it just can't be contained anymore and overflows. You know, typical romantic comedy scene : the guy and the girl squabbling, and throwing insults at each other, and being in each other's face, nearly nose-to-nose during the argument... until- pause- they look into each other eyes... KISS, they could not help themselves. At least, that's how it happens in the movies !:)
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