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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I need to know if anyone knows how to stop an obsession with someone. Or at least tone it down. I have this friend and we're both either in love with or obsessed with this 26 year old guy. He's cute, funny, good company, smart, and just so friendly. You never have to worry about being scared of him, because when he tries to yell or be angry, it doesn't really work. He can't sound mean enough. So it just makes him even funnier. When I say we have an obsession with him, I really mean OBSESSED! Everywhere we go I find ourselves saying "Oh, would if HE was here" or "Would if he did that or this?" We found out what his favorite color was, so when we see it we point it out. We know what kind of car he has, so when either one of us sees a car that looks like his we have to tell the other. Half of my diary entries are about him. We've even both had dreams about him! You can't tell me that from all that we're not obsessed. He WAS a teacher at our school, he's actually moving away tomorrow to go teach in North Carolina. Even though he's leaving we're still obsessed. We were so happy to have him next year, but now he up and left!At school, he would always talk to us and always gave us like these evil glares (jokingly). We would stop in his classroom to talk to him, and we had a good time and everything. I think we actually just got too attached, but he's just like the perfect guy. He's too easy to actually get attached to. Plus we're like his favorite students. If you met him, you'd understand why we like him so much. We made a farewell card for him on the last day of school, and almost EVERYBODY in our grade (8th) was sad that he was leaving. He was like the popular teacher. Really I just want to kind of stop this obsession, but not forget about him completely. He came with some good memories. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): You are in the midst of a HUGE crush and the only way to get over this is...time and it will happen as you mature and develop your worldview more. In the meantime, this crush may subside if this teacher is moving. If it doesn't, I would suggest one way to get over this teacher is to seriously start looking towards dating boys your own age. dear. Try your hand at being attracted to them, instead. Try hard to look beyond their awkwardness and silliness and really get to know them as friends. Your huge crush on this older man, is simply because he's more world wise, sophisticated and quite different from the boys your own age. I am sure this teacher is a wonderful mentor and role model. But really, you do know he cannot date you. So I suggest, you girls enjoy this crush but try not to waste too many of your youthful teen years on it, too much. Might be best to come back down to earth and date some boys your own age. Take all the wonderful traits that this teacher has, and apply it to your knowlege base and find a boy around your age who might have similar traits. But please..just always make sure you are respected and treated nicely by any boy, you date. They should treat you well...always expect the best..because you deserve it. So good luck, and get out there and have a blast being young and vibrant. Enjoy your life.
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (30 June 2008):
Pretty much everyone falls for a teacher, They're authoritive but they're still around you socially, it helps if theyre good looking too, what you have to remember is is hat everyne has their flaws noones perfect, and trust me he's far from it, & if he was you're age you probably wouldn like him, he'd probably be the overly anoying or really quiet geek. Just look for someone your own age and ime will help is basically the only dvice i can give you...we've all been there.
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