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writes:About 2 months ago, a close friend of mine started smoking after having a cigar at another friends sleepover. At first I thought it was just a phase, we're 15 and I thought she'd just got caught up with what the "cooler" kids were doing. I didn't get involved, because my dads a heavy smoker (he's been smoking for 38 years) and I know how unhealthy it is, as he suffers from heart problems. Just lately, she's started to smoke more. Is there any way I can get her to stop? I've tried to hide her fags from her but she always gets them back, she's having up to 10 a day, and I'm really worried she's on the way to becoming addicted/is already there.Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, supermum +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Some people, myself included actually like smoking. all you can do is be there for you friend if and when she decides to quit
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 I don't like smoking. However, I don't think I would like any friend of mine to tell me that I can't do it. I would consider it my own business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Well, tell your friend that, smoking is just not cool, its stupid, adn it makes you breath smel, your hair smell, its just nasty, but if you ask her to stop smoking and she still does it, then, she is not going to change, no matter what happens to her. She is the only one who can make her stop smoking, her and only her, its her choice, so let her smoke her cancer sticks.
Remember, you can not make someone do somthing, unless they want to do it.
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reader, earthgirl +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Hey first of all i would like to say well done on not getting involved. a lot of smokers now are starting at a very young age which is a shame because it is a real bad habit and it is so easy to become addicted. You are right to worry by your friend but only she can decide when to stop, all you can do is warn her of the dangers but it may not help, as you see warnings printed on cigarette packets but people still smoke them. I know you want to help her but as i said only she can decide when to stop :) I hope i have been helpful and good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Here we go.Everyone thinks we can stop people from doing
something by talking to them and taking things away,but we
CAN'T!It's their decision.It's not gonna do any good talkin
to them unless you know they want to change because they're
not gonna listen.I know you care about your friend,but it's
her decision,no matter how bad it is.So just back off a
little.But if you really want to,then you tell her parents.
Get her to talk to someone.But don't force her to change.
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