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writes:I am constantly on the social networking side of the internet. I check facebook often, email for work and personal connection, etc. So now that I'm in an LDR I see that my very handsome boyfriend has added a few girls to his friends list that go to his college. So my question is, how do I resist the temptation of always checking his updates or letting my jealousy get to me? And please refrain from the "just don't go on facebook!!!" because you and I both know we all do it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u so much everyone! This has been so helpful, especially from some of the guys. I will try to stay curious, but then look on the positive side that he's making friends in a new environment.
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reader, Diligence +, writes (28 September 2012):
 First things first. Is he really cheating or flirting? Or is this something that you see in your mind's eye?
You have to build your self-confidence! Rely on your personal worth to guide you. Would he be your b/f if he didn't want you? Of course not. Don't push him away or drive yourself nuts with jealousy, it's a waste of your time and emotions. Your confidence in your self worth is more than any jealousy can do for you.
If he did decide to cheat or flirt with someone else, (which sometimes will happen,) then he was probably going to cheat on you anyway and it wouldn't work out.
Stay curious, but not jealous. Open jealousy will always drive another person away from you. Self worth and self confidence are the keys.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (28 September 2012):
For starters cut back the amount of times you check facebook. Secondly find other things better to do with your time. The small time you spent on facebook could have been used for something else.
Develop a closer communication with your boyfriend and work on your trust issues. When you could've been happy that he is adding more people, you waste your time being negative. It helps to put yourself in their shoes once in a while. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he become jealous at your facebook activity as well.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (28 September 2012):
 i think you have got to relax and trust him. So he has added a few girls from his college as friends on his facebook, this does not mean there is anything going on. I think you are causing yourself unessessary upset. A healthy relationship is about trusting one another. A relationship without trust is like building a house without laying the foundations, sooner or later it will fall down. stop this dis-trust, your going to drive yourself mad, and you will risk pushing him away too. Start trusting him and enjoy this relationship.
Good luck
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