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writes:I just had court this past Wednesday for Child Custody. My daughter's father have been playing games, telling lies and GOD knows what else. The judge ordered I have Physical Legal Custody and we have Joint Legal Custody. He also ordered him every Wednesday from 3pm - 7pm and every other weekend Friday 6pm to Sunday 6pm. I haven't heard from him this whole day until 15 minutes till 6pm. I was so upset because I was still at work. I had to leave work early so I can get my daughter ready. I have him meet me in a busy parking lot. My daughter was having dinner with my family. I pulled up to the parking lot, saw him and he got the nerve to come with his new girlfriend which of course, he's down graded. He said he called the cops because I refused to give my daughter to him which was lie. She was having dinner with my family. I went into the restaurant to get her. He said he called the cops. So, my family and I waited. I called the cops to see how long it would be till cops arrived. The operator said there was no call being made. To make a long story short, this man has caused so much grief in our lives and he's playing these games. I've put out two restraining orders on this man, his lies, in and out traffic with women in his home, he letting his older's sons girlfriend spend the night and he has an 8 year old daughter and plus, my daughter is with him every other weekend. This is not exceptable. No child should witness any of these negativity. What should I do to make it where he doesn't see her at all until he gets help?
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reader, Farris  +, writes (3 June 2007):
 I'm not very knowledgeable about the legal system, but here's my advice.
I'm afraid that there's really nothing that you can do to help this situation other than look into the legalities of things. If you can afford to, talk to a good divorce lawyer about what is going on, and see whether they can offer any help. You didn't mention if you were married to this man, but this kind of lawyer knows all the laws about child custody, and what you can achieve.
The fact that you've said that the custody of your daughter has already been settled means, that there's probably little else you can really do now, and I'm very sorry for this. But you have to keep your daughter's interests as a priority here... As much as you dislike the man, is it really in her best interests to keep her completely out of contact with him?
I think it's a good thing that you have called restraining orders on him, and you should also make inquiries as to what you can do about him breaking the ordered custody... It's all very well for HIM to be threatening you, but the fact of the matter is that he was a day late anyway.
I know in some cases like these, some men only battle for custody to spite their ex-partners and cause upset for them, and you shouldn't have to put up with all this now that you're finally apart.
I really feel for you, but the best thing to do is to seek proper legal aid on this. I know it can be expensive, but often you can seek advice for free, so you know what can be done.
Best wishes & good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Do they have a victim support help line were you are, They do here and i had a sim problem they helped alot with court injunctions and so on so my ex couldnt see his daughter at all as he was very dangerous, have you got a citizans advise line you could contact to get you intouch with anyone who would support you.
You need to phone and get all the help you can i have full care and control with my daughter, i phoned everyone i could think of i grabbed the phone book and just went for it. This must be getting you so down love my heart goes out to you it is so frustrating and it is also very hurtfull i hope you can sort somthing out, i hope this helped a little you can contact me at anytime take care and good luck xx
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