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writes:so hi...i really need help. i have horrible confidence problems. and i dont know how to become confident. like its becoming so bad that i think about killing myself. i feel worthless all of the time. and i am jealous of pretty much all of my feiends.. i really need help to learn that i am worth something... please help me because i cant take hating myself anymore. :(
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (20 December 2009):
the only person who can do something about this is you.
i used to hate myself and i used to hide away in my shell i got counselling and talked about why i hated myself and why, but i had family problems and thats what seemed to cause my probelm,perhaps you have some problems at home?
heres what helped me "like myself".
(please ignore spelling)
1. accsept yourself-
take a good look in the mirror and take a good look at yourself and accsept that this who you are,this is what you are.
get to know yourself and love yourself or no-one else will.
2. your good qualities-
this might seem hard to do at first but i want you to write down what you think is good about yourself.
e.g
sense of humour
freindly
good heart
caring
if you find this hard ask a member of family to help you write down what they find good about you.
3. understand-
you must understand that
"beauty is skin deep".
nobody in this entire world is perfect and they'd be kidding themselves if they said they were happy with themselves.
you dont have to be beautifull on the outside to be a beautifull person.
personality is just as good.
4. confidence
try joining a drama club or a hobbie of yours.
confidence is like braking through a wall.
easy if you use the right tools.
its all about getting out of your comfor zone and expressing yourself,let these people see who you are inside.
once youve broken through this wall,you'r problem is solved. try looking at people in the eye for a short time,
try approaching people before they approach you.
never be affraid to show yourself.
5. SMILE
"smile though your heart is aching".
if people see you are a happy person they will feel at more ease with you and you will proberly feel more at ease with yourself..it takes less mucsles to smile than it does to frown.
6. Pamper yourself.
do what makes you feel good like:
shopping
tanning
swiming
singing
make up
dressing up
being with freinds.
good luck
give us an update xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Make a list of your accomplishments and friends.List things that you admire about the people in your life.If the list is really short or you won't allow yourself to do this go see a doctor and ask for paxill or another anti depressent drug until you snap out of it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2009):
 Hi i lost $2000 cash the other day lost fell out of my sock thats where i keep it cuse i wont fit in a wallet hopefully some starving orphan found it, any way the point is bad things happen in life what ever happened to you to make you feel this way its something your gonna have to be strong enough to get through everyone is here for a reason find yours focus on the positive aspects of life you have something good going for you atleast one thing. Ive been around the world and i can tell you life is hard the things you take for granted like a computer internet electricity and non contaminated drinking water are luxuries in some parts of the world, you got it better then you think. You may also benefit from some proffesional help speak with your parents on that good luck and think positive
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 Ask yourself - why are you not confident? Are people continously putting you down? Move away from them. Have a wardrobe sort out and throw away clothes that do not make you feel good and keep those that do. If you feel confident in the way you look thats a start. Spend sometime experimenting with makeup and your hair. Get someone to take some photos. Try different styles. Know you see how the world sees you - do you like it?
Next you need to be doing something with your life - are you working, studying? If you are not doing anything - this wil make you feel worthless.
Have a go at my suggestions and come back to us. Know one else can help you except yourself. I did it!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (20 December 2009):
 Honey this is way beyond us. You obviously want help, which is a REALLY good step toward you getting help.
How old are you? Young enough for school? Go to the counselor and tell her you're having self esteem problems and don't know who to talk to. She will either talk to you, or refer you. Are you religious? Even if you're not, go to a morman church and find out who the Bishop is. Bishops talk to everyone about everything and they do it for free.
We really don't have an magic words to make you love yourself suddenly. Whatever you've been though.. we don't know about, whatever you hate specifically, we don't know about, whatever you blame yourself for, we don't know about.. we don't know anything about your past, present or future. Please talk to someone. If you can't handle it, then ask the Bishop for his email address first so that you don't have to confront him face-to-face.
You can PM if you want. Don't know how much help i'll be but I'll "listen."
~Sy
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reader, Ballgirl22 +, writes (20 December 2009):
Hello,,
First of all if this has to do with looks. Im here to tell u that beauty is only skin deep. Alot of the most beautiful girls in the world have the worst personality! Some of the most nicest people are not beautiful! U cant let looks define who you are as a person! This may help take a day to yourself and go to a salon. And have ur hair and make-up done. That might give u a boost! But trust me im sure u are a beautiful person inside and out! U need to focus on all the great things about urself! And dont be so hard on urself. U are the way god made u.
I hope this helps... Please never feel so bad that u want to end ur life! Trust in god and pray and everything will be just fine!
~ God Bless =)
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reader, Lovesucks1234 +, writes (20 December 2009):
 I know exactly how you feel I used to feel that way. I used to be terribly jelouse of my best friend. Shed always had a hot boyfriend and lots of friends. Then idk what made me realize but every boyfriend she had cheated on her. As many ppl who liked her hated her. And she cuts herself and has a terrible home life. The thing is I piled on make up wore really I gusse emo clothes and tried to be someone i wasn't. Then I decided hmph why do I do this? So I started wearing less make up and dressing comfy and myself. Now guys are starting to like me and I'm finding new friends. It's all in how yu look at things. Try being yourself. Because anyone with confidence issues is someone trying to be someone they arnt and they arnt confident because they'll screw up there "image" of what they wantt to be.
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