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writes:How do I stop feeling down about an unrequited love situation?I foolishly let myself fall for a young guy who was pretty much unavailable due to age, background, personal circumstances etc. I knew deep down there was no future in it, but I felt he liked me too judging by his actions and so I just let my feelings run away with me. Now, he has moved on to another job and although our paths may cross again, I feel it's the end as neither of us encouraged the other to stay in touch. Now I'm thinking did I imagine we liked each other or did we secretly like each other but do nothing as we knew it was a hopeless situation that was going nowhere?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2019): How? Stop fantasizing it's something it isn't. If he really liked you, he would have suggested keeping in touch. Guys chase. Remember that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2019): First of all, unrequited love is romanticized-material for love stories, movies, and romance-novels. It's not real-life. It's better referenced as a crush or a fancy.
This is what happens when you let your imagination runaway with you. You can focus or study on a crush; until it starts to take roots. You start believing every move made, or word said, to have some sort of meaning; but it's feeding into that fantasy. You only grow all the more infatuated.
You "felt" he liked you, you let yourself fall for the guy; but all the facts and reality was there the entire time.
He may have liked you, but I would agree that you let your imagination take it beyond where it should be. He's gone, you're an adult; so let it pass.
What's the point? He's not there anymore, and nothing ever came of it anyway. It's time to socialize, start dating, and to get a hobby to give you some stimulation and healthy distraction.
You're reading too many romance novels, binging on chick-flix, watching too much television, or staying indoors too much.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 May 2019):
 If nothing happened I think it was more "fantasy" than reality.
Because usually, where there is a will, there is a way.
Get out and socialize and get your mind of this guy. Meet new people, try new things (and I don't mean that in a romantic or sexual manner), expand your horizon.
Sometimes a crush is JUST that.. a crush.
Got to let it go. Or you will be stuck on this guy and not notice someone who will be a better fit and match for you becuase you head is in the clouds.
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