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writes:I've been with my boyfriend 6 months now, and I've run into a kinda personal issue. It doesn't have anything to do with him, he's perfect, treats me great, and I love him with my all my heart. The problem is I feel like he's the one for me, and since that thought, I've been fantasizing about spending the rest of my life with him. I didn't want him to find out about my thoughts, but we're so open with each other, tid bits have come out. He knows I think he's it for me, I've subtly asked where he thinks this is going, and he tells me he wants a long, happy, healthy relationship with me. Then last night we somehow got on the topic of engagement rings (this time I don't think I was responsible) but I continued along the conversation, and I told him a ring was about 10,000$ (overpriced, I know) and his comment was that we'd have an awesome honeymoon. The next day he told me not to take this seriously or think about it too much, and handed me an item in World of Warcraft that was a diamond ring. Since he thought that I would take that as a serious proposal, I feel a little taken aback. Does he really think I'm that pathetic to take something like that seriously? How can I stop my fantasies and just learn to enjoy the relationship without worrying about if it's serious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): everyone seems to be curious on our age. He's 27 and I'm 21. This is also his longest relationship. I've been in only a 2 year and 3 year relationship. I dont necessarily want to get married so soon, I just am so afraid of losing him that I want to be sure he wants the same things I do. Cause I know if we break up, I'd be hurt for a very very long time. He's such a great man, that I'd love to spend the rest of my life with. Thank you all for your wonderful advice. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Hi there!
This a mature matter and very serious and sometimes people deal with serious things thru humor cause they just dont know how to react. This is normal, assuming your bf is around your age. This relationship needs more time I think to develop so the matters can be taken to a different level. Talking about marriage is steps and should be approached at the right time. Because he isnt taking it seriously this tells me the relationship just needs to mature so you two can eventually thoroughly think this out together. Your fantasy is normal lol in fact, probably rare in a very good way. Just take your time with this guy and as you grow older and learn more about people, you will know what feels right and what doesnt in the relationship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Hey there
Im not going to tell you he is not "the one" but i am going to say that i agree your still young and should take it day by day. Dont rush into anything because you dont want to scare him away or put pressure on him or anything. You dont have to stop your fantasies sometimes its nice to daydream about things we want to happen, but maybe just keep them to yourself until you have been together longer and then who knows, your fantasties might come true in the future :)
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reader, thelittleone! +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Sweetie!
I dont know your age probably younger than me! you dont have to push anything he loves you but he probably need a little space to think, dont lose him for dreams! one day all of them are gonna be truth until then you have to live, love and laugh
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reader, bella.. +, writes (12 October 2010):
 i dont know if im going to help but 6 months its not alot.. take your time dont think about getting marry or anything like that yet. Maybe he is not ready yet just keep enjoying day by day making your relationship stronger. Everything comes at its on time.
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reader, iammadatyoucards +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You are waaaaaaaaaaay too young to be thinking that this guy is "the one". You can't make a sound choice until you have had more life experiences. Get it out of your head. It is not 1950. Focus on yourself and your career and most definately date other people.
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