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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok this is beginning to drive me mad.Where to start? I've known this man pretty much my whole life but we haven't been in constant contact, last year he messaged me saying he was going to be around where I was staying for studying and wanted to meet for a drink. I'm pretty sure it was meant to be only us but due to unforseen circumstances it ended up being with his friends which all went well. At the end we hugged and said we would do it again.Many months passed and we both completed our studying and moved home. He then started messaging me and said 'fancy meeting up for a drink?' to which I said yes and we met up just the two of us and spent the whole evening chatting and laughing. There were a few moments when I caught him staring in my eyes and he wanted to pay for everything. When we left we got a cab and went to mine first all the way laughing and giggling. When we got there we hugged and he said text me when you get in (even though we were right outside my door) so I did and he text back saying we should do it again soon. My friends said that was a date even though I'm not completely sure.We have texted a few times since then (two or three weeks) but now its always me who texts him first but he makes the conversation last even if hes out with friends. Should I keep texting first? Should I ask him out this time? Is it worth persuing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): well, being a male, it seeems to me that this guy does like you ,but not that much to make up his mind to start a relationship with you. i think the few times he asked you out, he was trying to figer that out, to help him make up his mind. this to me is kinda obvious, 'cause i've done pretty much the same.
but since he stopped at your doorway and has't texted you first, he probably has decided that he is not that into you.
so, the question is ,how much do you want to be with him? if not that much, stop text him first, 'cause we both know this is getting nowhere. you can continue to be good friends having a wonderful time together.
but if you do want a relationship with him, then you should ask him out, and imply that you have feelings for him, see how he reacts. wish u luck!
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