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writes:I've been employed with this department for over 8 years. It's a dead end job. I'll miss a few people here however, it's been time to move on to something better. I've applied with so many companies, departments, contractors, court houses...I've lost count. I am emotionally down with this job hunting. I'm a single mother maintaining however, I'm stressed out. My motivation level is going down. I have co workers who are more than less experienced than I am and they seem to get jobs. How do I stay sane?
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 Sounds like you've fought hard, worked your ass off and been really strong for a really long time. I have every faith than sooner than you think karma is gonna deal you the hand you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionpie303: Every situation can be better however, it's up to the individual to make that change. In this really small town, it's all who you know. I've been on interviews for countless amount of time. As usual, the nervous syndrome. Thanks for the advice.
OwHiTeLiOnO: I'm holding at 29 with a BS in Computer Science at a dead end job with co workers who think they are better than everyone else but that's everywhere. I've asked people who have the same degree as I have and guess what? Funny to say, they are somewhat in the same situation but in the field they majored in. As far as skills? I do carry the skills unfortunately, I need a refresher course to carry me on through memory lane.
Anonymous reader: Yes, I am fortunate to have a job however, I do have an ex co worker who received her Master's Degree in Environmental Science with NO experience at all. Yes, she's having trouble find a job but she's traveling around the world getting experience with the contractors she's been with for quite sometime. But it's not full time. She recently came back from Puerto Rico. She's been gone for 6 months.
As far as bosses being younger than ourselves, I do know what you mean. One of the supervisors in my division, barely graduated from adult school, can't hardly spell, read or even write and she's a supervisor. She can't make any decisions on her own without asking the higher up's. She gotta ask the higher up's if she can wipe her azz. That's how bad it is. I can go on with this.
Still trying to smile? That's really good. The only person that makes me smile is my daughter. I am truly sorry for what you've been going through. It isn't easy.
I am also in debt with college loans, medical bills and the list gones on with little help. I don't qualify for state assistance because they said I make too much for two people. I left my daughter's dad about two years ago...we've been off and on since then...but I am truly done with his nonsense, negativity, lies and deceitful ways. He's cheated on me, gave up his rights and the list goes on. I've supported five people (his two kids from his previous marriage, him, my daughter and myself) with one income which is mine. Isn't that some stuff?
Thank you all for your responses.
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reader, pie303 +, writes (25 April 2008):
 keep trying to be positive, like my self it could be worse, my boyfriend doesn't want to have any thing to do with me now because the job market is so poor and im jobless... and broke. looking on the interweb is a good place to go, or you can try networking with ether friends or people on the web. just keep that chin up, good luck hun :D
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reader, OwHiTeLiOnO +, writes (25 April 2008):
 Monster is the best site ever for jobs. I have got very good paying jobs with huge global companies thanks to that site. I recommend it to everybody that asks me about a job. As for staying sane it is obvious you need to get out of there ASAP. Try to get more relaxation as well. I took my first Yoga class today during my lunchtime & yesterday I got a massage after work. If your age is truly in the upper 20's range I don't see why you are having such a hard time finding a job. Employers like hiring younger people. Maybe you don't have enough education or skills? Give us some more information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): At least you have a job. Try being 33, single, living with parents still, have no friends/no boyfriend, a master's degree, two years of unemployment and three months of underemployment in shameful part time "jobs" where your bosses are all younger than you and not a single one of them have more than a high school diploma and you are physically ill but cannot tell anyone and your family keeps impliying you are unemployed because it's your choice and even your fiancé dumps you because he believes so too and doesn't support you, Plus you are more than $8,000 in credit card debt without counting more than $36,500 in students' loan debt and you have to pay the minimum payment of your credit card monthly with the money you withdrew from the same credit card (just to get yourself into more trouble but keeping your credit scores in good status) because NO ONE would help you.
Try that and then ask me about how do I do it. Not what can you do about your situation which I'd love to have right now.
I'm still able to smile though.
Learn new things and try to apply them to your job to maintain mental health until something else comes up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, Brooke for the advice.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (25 April 2008):
You just havent found the right job yet. If you're not getting the jobs you're applying for it means you're not right for them so thank god you didnt get them otherwise you'd be miserable in them. A lot of it also depends on who else applies so keep applying for them and keep looking because you dont know whats just around the corner but one things for certain if you dont try to get another job, you never will. Nobody's gonna come knocking on your door wondering if anyone who lives there would like this really fantastic job they have, so just keep doing what you're doing and you'll get there in the end.
Brooke
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