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writes:Hey there ! :) so basically I have always liked older men, usually im attracted to someone in their 20's but have recently started talking to more in the 30-late 40s . There's just one problem I'm 16 a month away from 17 and am waiting so patiently to turn 18 since that's the legal age in my state. I'm thinking about living in NY since the legal age is 17 .. I've been lieing about my age like saying I'm 18 19 or 21 .. I haven't had a relationship in a year and a half cuz of this problem. . I've been trying to get my GED but haven't passed so I just did the dual enrollment thing infact a lot of my friends don't even know I'm still finishing Highschool( only 1/2 yr left) on top of being a college student. I'm an old soul am very mature for my age And could never send anyone to jail, every time a guy finds out about my age i or they break it off cuz they freakouteven though I honestly would never do anything , I've been stating single and just hooking up secretly but want someone that truly likes me for me and accepts my age .. Any advice and any thing to stay away from with sugar daddies? I felt so much comfort from reading a girls post like mine .. I welcome any tips and please asks me questions I will try to reply to most of them :) please tell me what you've learned and such to!!
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reader, advisegiver6489 +, writes (16 November 2012):
 Lying about your age can be dangerous..,you may consider yourself mature but lying about your age is the first immature sign. Older people especially men always know the right thing to say & do to get a younger persons attention. They are advanced and will rob you of your teenage hood. Don't be so eagered to become 18 bc it only come with big decisions and bills. Look inside yourself and ask why do I have to lie to get men?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey girly @GarciaDeLuise! Thanks for the advice I am definitely going to try to not have sex not till later.. I do tend to get a lot of male attention and sexual messages on fb..and that sort of makes me not want to and I also dont have to much of a sex drive either so I dont think that'll be a problem..
So basically your telling me I shouldn't have a relationship until a year? and not have sex until 2 years ..
@LonelyTwo My dad and I dont have a good relationship and he always gets angry with me.. I definitely like how someone treats me like a princess cause I never really got that.
I Thank you ALL for answering it truely is appreciated and your comments has helped me a lot already.. I wish you all love, peace, and joy into your lifes :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I just dont have a job anymore and am having trouble finding one its really frusterating so thats why sugar daddies have come into the picture. I know I feel that at 17 I won't have to lie anymore really. And I'm probably just going to stay in the same state but go to college in another town next year and I think that will be positive for me. Also, my dad is in the picture I see him everyday, but we never really talk and we dont have a good relationship at all. I do not let that once so ever let guys take advantage of me because of that.. but I do feel as if that has been apart of me liking older men because my dad was always so mean to me and ya I'm probably saying too much . Liking older men is fine, but you shouldn't act on it until you are able to hold your own and KNOW yourself to the point where your life is stable, which is normally around 25.... Maturity at 16-18 is very different than maturity at 25, which is needed. Also, it isn't mature at all to lie about your age.Moving won't help you. Don't go having sex just because you can because it isn't worth it and believe me, it messes with your self-respect. When you're 18-25, stick to guys who are under 5 years older than you, otherwise the life gap will be way too big to work and it'll cause a lot of heartache. That's also how you avoid "sugar daddies".Is your dad in the picture?Thanks for the response
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1st person who answered: thanks I'm glad we can least relate, Im sorry to hear about your old boyfriend and how it really hurt you I'm sure that made you stronger , I don't have as much attraction to the older men just they are so sweet and want to pamper me I haven't kissed anyone over 25.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Hello,
I relate to you because when I was 16, I fell for a guy who was 23 and we were crazy about each other. Looking back at it now (I'm now in my early thirties), I think it was a bad idea because we were both at different stages in our lives. It didn't work out as he was graduating from university and I was about to enter high school. When he graduated, I think he felt it was wrong to keep up a relationship and we broke things off ( a blessing in disguise) and it REALLY hurt my feelings. He never allowed himself to get physically intimate with me due to me being so young, so I am glad he knew his boundaries looking back at it now.
Even though we were both mature, and he always felt I was "older" than my age, it can't really work and you're headed towards dissapointment. I strongly suggest you wait until you're 18 and then date people a few years older than you if you feel they are more mature, but don't go for men who are much older than you (ie 30s or 40s).
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