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writes: Dear Cupd, and readers.I relly need some advice, and I hope that I can get all the advice that i can get."How do you find yourself, and what your purpose is in life? How do break free from what society expects you to be and search what it is that you truely want to be"Some people go away for several months in another country make new friends, and when they are on their own things seem clearer.? i hope im making sence, but I feel confused and unhappy, I want to do some soul searching, but I have no idea where to start or what to do. I'm in a possessive old fashioned family, and i want to break free? how do i do that without hurting them and make them realise this is for my own good, I am going this for my own happiness and my own future. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): From time to time, life can suddenly seem strangely pointless and tough, and ccasionally a need for deeper answers becomes more than a simple curiosity. We can either shrug those moments off, or let them eat at us. It appears you have come to the point, where you are looking for some answers to how you want to live your life away from the constraints of family attitudes and what everyone else is likely telling you what to do.
The only way is by changing your attitude to the positive. It's that simple. Life is exciting, and once you understand the rules or spiritual concepts you realise that everything is possible and that you are in control of your own destiny. We create our own reality. You are only limited by your thinking and only you can only act on your understanding and experience. Think big and open yourself to new ideas. The trick is to simply change your view and no matter, don't allow anyone to change your mind. This is your life -your future-don't allow other people's negativity drag you down. But remember, you can't change other people-you can only change yourself. Decide what you want, and focus all your attention on it. Then when you decide what that is-start believing in yourself and get proactive. Take stock of your life right now. What is your goals...your dreams? What would make you the happiest? If you want to be relaxed and at peace but live a lifestyle that does not have time for relaxation then you will tend to have more stress in your life. Wanting does not mean having-you have to get busy and think how 'wanting and acting' go hand in hand. Talk to some spiritual leaders for advice, like a minister. It doesn't matter if you aren't necessarily religious...they have some wonderful ideas on helping you attain your goals in life and can help you on the way to changing your ingrained attitudes that could acting as barriers, in your way of thinking. Buy some good books on the subject of "soul searching" and read. Reading is relaxing, as well as educational. We all come to a crossroads in our lives where we want change. You have only but one life to live so live the best way you can and the way that makes you the happiest. But live it with positivity and helpfulness. I wish you the best and stay well and I hope you find what you are looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): First begin to love who you are as a woman or man and appreciate what you have around you for instance your family,your friends your life your community don't take life for granted are you happy if not do something anything that makes you feel happy and live in the moment sing dance or scream Do something good for another person then yourself to sooth your soul Love yourself completely
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