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writes:I have been going through an, at times, very unpleasant divorce over the last 4 years after 22+ years of mostly happy marriage. I began to think I would spend the rest of my life on my own and then a friend convinced me to try a dating site aimed at my age group. So I gave it a try and POW! I have met a wonderful man who I got on with from the first email! From the first date we found we had so much in common it was like we had known each other for years! We have spent the last 3 months together most of the week with him staying at mine some nights and me at his. We see each other about 4 evenings a week - I am enjoying my independence and our arrangement suits me. The thing that I need some advice about is that I have been with one man for nearly 25 years and sex became with him very routine, we were long past anything too erotic - he knew what I liked and I knew what he liked and it was OK. However, my new 'boyfriend' 'lover' or 'friend' is very experienced where sex is concerned and he is very gentle and patient with me. But he said something this weekend which has made me think - he said 'you spoil me every other way (I DO like looking after him - he has never experienced what he calls a 'proper' wife before) but you dont spoil me in bed'. I wasnt very experienced before I got married (not completely innocent but no red hot lover) and he has made me think just HOW do I spoil him? I really want to make him so contented that he never needs another - I am completely mad about him.Ideas please but not along the lines of some of the blogs I have read on this site. This is about pleasing him in bed and not having his dinner on the table for him. Thanks M
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comments to my question!
The first reply is very true - I have had a few 'friends' say the same thing'. I should be old enough to not get carried away with this new 'superman' but we have been acting like a couple of lovesick teenagers (grown up daughter keeps making comments along the lines of 'how old are you two. 14?) but I think we are a little bit 'grown up' about it now.
I am enjoying every moment of it and if it lasts, then that would be wonderful.
PS not sure if bibu's advice was very helpful though!!!!!!
M
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): I agree with Caring Guy. Ask him to elaborate. Why should you have to guess what's on his mind?
That's wonderful that you've met this great guy, but please be careful over the first few months and guard your feelings (you say you're completely mad about him). Don't lose yourself over him just yet-- remember that the higher you rise, the harder you can fall.
Who knows if one can really do anything to prevent their spouse/bf/lover from straying? Look at Tiger Woods. Has a beautiful, devoted, caring wife-- but it wasn't enough for him, obviously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Watch porn for some ideas. Sex really is a pretty basic act, but the enthusiasm you have during it can make all the difference in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I am really happy for you that you met someone. He is obviously attracted to you, so I would buy some sexy lingerie and show up at his house wearing it with a coat over it, You could bring drinks if you like and have fun. you can figure it out from there. You can always tie him up to the bed post too
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 December 2009):
He seems to know what he wants. So ask him to enlighten you.
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