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anonymous
writes:hi everyone my fwb of 6 months says im letting myself go with my looks as i spend to much time concentrating on my son how do i surprise him and show him im not letting myself go thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 I do agree with the rest on a few points though.... this is a man who has no commitment to you, then you vice versa have no commitment to him. In other words, he doesn't have a right to complain, and if he does complain he needs to zip his pants up and take it elsewhere. He's got no right to say anything like that to you, and you shouldn't have to work to keep him around either. After all, it's just sex, right? You're a woman who's got tons of men who would be happy to sleep with you. Guy's are sluttier on average than women and most men wouldn't turn down the chance to be fwb with a woman. He on the other hand will have poorer luck finding someone new. In effect, HE is the one who should be putting in some efforts to keep you around. If he can't do that then what are you doing with him? A fwb is supposed to bring uncomplicated pleasure, NOT extra stress and drama.
Tell this guy that you dress up fancy and look good when you get something more in return than sex. If you don't stand your ground and show some self respect he'll be walking all over you soon, and you'll be the one who does his bidding and has sex with him with NO commitment... sweet deal for him, but what's in it for you?
Conclusion: don't even bother trying extra hard for him. If you don't think anything is wrong with how you look, and you know you don't have time for extra's, and YOU are happy with how you look, then don't bother with what he says. He's not in a position where his opinion matters, or should be taken into consideration even. That is the position of a husband or long term boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didnt say that about my son he means more to me than anyone you,ve read it wrong i meant how can i look after my son but still take care of my looks to
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): Really? your fwb, not you bf, is telling you you're letting yourself go? no offence but if you care more about what your fwb thinks then you do your son, maybe it's time to let him go. find yourself a good man who will treat you and your son with kindness and love. it sounds like all this guy cares about is getting a piece of a**, i know fwb is a tricky situation, i've had one, but please put your son before him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011):
Why have a FWB who uses you for sex then tells you your 'letting yourself go' and spending too much time with your son?!!!Why not have a proper relationship a healthy one with a future - find a man who loves you for you and sees what a great job your doing with your son.
Surprise FWB by telling him to go find somebody else.
Your worth more x
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