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writes:Right where do i start:(! I have been with my current boyfriend for just over a year. Things are really good and he treats me well. but theres one thing i just can't shake the fact that he has cheated or is cheating on me, i haven't got any hard proof but let me just say a few things have been said about this certain girl and why he is'nt with her, i just got this horrible feeling that he has done something i tell him all the time about how paranoid i am, and i no i'm doing his head in but i just can't shake the feeling! Reply to this Question
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reader, Luckyme +, writes (10 February 2009):
Luckyme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo be honest i just think its too good to be true he honestly could.nt do enough 4 me. Just as people have said things in the past. That have made me think he may have cheated. I just don't want to be made a mug out of and the thing i always said to myself is that i won't let it happen again. I have been cheated on in the past. I was also cheating on that partner.
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reader, lbear +, writes (10 February 2009):
in same situation, like you my head is a mess and after awhile ill start telling myself its all in my head; only thing is you have a gut feeling and its come from somewhere. either your man is playing head games because really he has very little self est and he thinks thats the way to get you to really take an interest/ he is being jack the lad or he has'nt cheated. you have three choices all lead to the same answer; ya need to talk to him and if he really loves you and respects you then he will understand and resolve the issues you have; if he knows your hurtin then surly he would want get rid of the pain and show you he really does love you.dont be angry and above all dont get mad, talk lovingly and calmly, maybe open a bottle of wine and play the old romance card it will lower any bad vibes you have( after all he may not have cheated) hopefuly you will talk and if he wont then im sorry but its time to ask the question Is he worth it? really X X lbear
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reader, Luckyme +, writes (10 February 2009):
Luckyme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe do talk and he does say that he would never cheat or hurt me but i just keep thinking he aint ever going to tell me the truth is he? They also say you should listen to your gut! I just hate feeling this way
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): i totally understand and am in the same situation, unless it is resolved your head will get worse and worse to the point of total paranoia, do you really need to be with a guy that you cant sit down and tell just how bad you feel? i bet in the beggining you talked openly and lovingly about everythig and always said you would stay that way.... well he hasnt kept up his end of the bargain has he! talk even if it scares you t bits.
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