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writes:LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not telling any? Perhaps we also need to stop asking questions that will just cause us to lie? Seriously, I never understood some of these questions asked of us. I mean do you serious expect us to tell you that you look like a giant overweight in that dress? Or worse , do we expect to hear that it was the worst sex that you ever had?Do these boots make my butt look big?I will start with the small little white lies that everyone wants to claim is a good lie. These are usually preceded by questions that are asked but shouldn't be unless you can take the criticism on what the opinion may be. Why ask a question that will most likely end up in a lie? Common usages: “Do I look good in this dress?” “Do these boots make my butt look big?” “Was that the best sex you ever had?” OK, that last one might end up in a truthful answer, depending on if they want to see the other person another time. We need to stop asking questions that only lead to lies or just stop expecting what the answer will be to the question you want answered. Other forms of these little white lies are what happens to pets after they die, etc... or when early in the relationship you get asked, “Do you love me?” Hey there, I'm a producer...Bigger lies.. These get more and more complex and can often lead to fights and arguments. They can range to “Career embellishment” to lying to where you hang out with your friends when you go out. These are used to a) score a date or b) keep scoring your date. These lies can be damaging. They tend to be destructive, but sometimes these can be salvageable. Though if you tell your date that you are CEO of XYZ, Inc. and make millions of dollars, you may not get that second date when you pick them up in your beat up Yugo. If you tell your partner that you are going to go bowling but are out frequenting bars(even though you may not be trolling for a date yourself which will part of a bigger and different lie) and get busted, well I hope you can regain their trust again, but chances are you have a chance. Sometimes we even use these lies thinking we are saving our partners from having a headache about it. Like you may say bowling instead of barring because you want to go out with your friends to the bars but will not pick up any dates but you don't want your partner to worry that you are.The biggest lies of them all...These ones, I hope that not many of us use. These are problematic in the fact that you are doing something you shouldn't be doing in the first place. You are probably cheating on your partner and will end up hurting them in the end. One problem with lies is that it is hard to keep the truth tucked away in its tiny box. It wants to burst open. These are hard to forgive. These are trust breakers. You cannot have a relationship without trust. Conclusion: We need to have more trust and accept criticismIf you are trying on clothes and your partner comes with you, they probably already think you look awesome. There is no need to get hurt just because they think a particular piece of clothing doesn't look great on you. We would see less lies if we stop asking these kinds of questions where we expect a certain answer but get another. Some questions just should remain silent. Don't expect a heartfelt “I love you” when asked about it. The best truthful way is when it comes straight out. We should be more willing to come out and say what we think, IE. “I love you” “That dress looks great on you” “Those boots make your butt look scrumptious!”Last point, Respect honesty. Don't be afraid so much when your partner says “I'm going out to the bar with my friends.” If they are being straight forward, chances are that they will be true to exactly what they plan on doing. Not many people will say exactly where they'd be if they plan on doing some deceitful. Rely on further lies that may come up before thinking something is happening just because they enjoy going to bars with their friends.
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 September 2012):
 This is a good article and I am going to feature it in my favourite articles article because it is true
Well done Tux
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