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writes:I've been seeing this man for 2 months. He still isn't sure about what he wants from this 'relationship' and this is making me neurotic. I can't stop thinking about him all the time- It's affecting my life. I want to return to normal- before him. But I dont know how to- I don't want to stop talking/ seeing him but I want to be able to live my life the way I was before he came on the scene. Can someone please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 2 months is not long at all. CALM down. RELAX, take it slow. Trying to FORCE something doesn't work. Just like you can't STARE at water and poof you get ice cubes!
The more you try and PUSH him the more he will back off and eventually - run for the hills.
YOU need to accept that the relationship may or may not be long term, but try and enjoy it while you can instead of sabotaging it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): I would try to take it easy. Don't press him for thoughts on where you are going, if anywhere. Two months is not long and you should just be enjoying each others company at this stage. As months go by it will become apparent if you are getting much closer. If you feel you can't handle it - I would back off and get your life back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): Well you just have to choose, return to normal or keep seeing him because you can't have both.
OP two months is nothing and you can't force him to figure out what he wants so you'll just have to wait and see. If on the third month he still doesn't know then I personally would walk away because being a relationship with a guy who you're that crazy about who doesn't really seem to care is not a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs it a rush? I don't know, I haven't really had a proper relationship before and I feel time is ticking and I need to have one. I like him a lot- he's the first guy in three years Ive liked enough to want to be with and he's honest with me- which makes a nice change. I have been sexual with him yes, and am not in love just like him a lot. But the last week I would say I've became a bit nutty- and I know its putting him off me but I can't control myself. I need to though as I don't want to lose him. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): You just dont want to be on your own. You know its the truth.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2012):
 two months is NOT a long time to be dating....
why are you in such a rush to make this a long term serious relationship?
is it because you are already sexual with him?
are you in love with him
what is it about this man that makes you need him to make a commitment?
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