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writes:Should i be worried about this ?. I am dating this guy, and one of his friends sent me a message once saying " Hi. ( The name if the guy i am dating ) can't wait to see you again. I think he is in love ". This friend also sent me another message today saying " ( The name of the guy i am dating ) gives me headaches going on about you. He is going to wine and dine you tomorrow ". I have never met his friend in person, and haven't added him as a friend on facebook, so i was surprised when i read those messages. Also, the guy i am dating sent a text message tonight saying " My friends say maybe you've got a few guys like me who you are seeing. I tell them it's not so. Wow, i'm falling in love with you ". Then he sent another message saying " I'm happy to go with the flow. You decide. Whatever happens we will be friends most of all ". I'm meeting up with the guy i am dating tomorrow. Should i be concerned about his behaviour at all, or about his friend's behaviour ?. I'm not seeing anyone else, so i don't know why his friends would think that, especially when they haven't met me ?. The guy i am dating has said that he talks about me a lot to his friends and family. One of his nephews sent me a message on facebook once too, asking if i was seeing his uncle. We have only been out few times so far. Also, should i respond to the text messages he sent me tonight ?. Should i text him back, or should i say something when i see him tomorrow, and should i respond to his friend on facebook ?.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 This guy sounds like a pain OP. Sorry I'm trying not to be judgmental here but its all out there.
He sounds very clingy.
He has advertised your relationship all over the place and because of the way he has projected you, he has given his friends and family the liberty to get way too personal with you, while you dont even know them!
He reeks of insecurity. " My friends say maybe you've got a few guys like me who you are seeing. I tell them it's not so. Wow, i'm falling in love with you ". This is his way of getting you to put his fears to rest that you're not seeing anyone else, because he has this huge fear that you might be, hence he's directing this issue through his "friends".
" I'm happy to go with the flow. You decide. Whatever happens we will be friends most of all " - He just wants you to say, "Come on, you know how I feel about you, I'll never leave you". He is hugely insecure and just wants a constant reassurance from you.
I'm not so sure about this guy OP, he could be a lot of work. Its rather overwhelming to deal with all this drama when you haven't even started, imagine what it would be down the line.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 Well, honestly I would make my profile private, first of all. And I wouldn't reply all the people who send you comments, you don't know why they are doing it.
Just focus on having a good time with your date and get to know him, his friends and family you can get to know once you two are a little more serious.
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