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writes:How do you regain self confidence after someone have cheated on you? Especially if the other woman was beautiful. How do I feel worthy again and not so ugly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I mentioned in my message that things will pass, I didn't mean for that to sound cold...these things never pass, but it gets a little easier to deal with..I was a mess, I thought I was gonna lose my mind and so did my family. I was so close with my husband we were intimate almost everyday...it was like a brick wall, so I know exactly what you are going through..it won't pass but will get a little easier..the memory of what he did will never be forgotten and that is something he will have to live with the distorted image he has made you think of him for the rest of his life....the image of a perfect man/husband is gone for him....take care of YOURSELF....xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Sweetie.
Please don't feel this way, dealing with someone cheating on you is devastating I know...
But really, because he was with someone who was beautiful..hmmm..My husband cheated with someone who was ugly and a crack addict...dirty..dirty apartment...and I am not an ugly woman...so what is up with that..
I think it all comes done to sex...it doesn't matter how the person looks like it is an illusion until they get caught then reality strikes they realize the one person who loved them dosent feel the same anymore....and that is a hard thing to live down for these cheaters..my husband wants US to be the same again...DONT THINK THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN...!
So be strong, it will pass, make sure you take care of yourself, you owe yourself...now..if he loves you he will stick around,
Don't feel like your ugly..please don't do this to yourself, you have suffered enough....
things will get a little easier, it takes time....
take care
XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): Gerta's 100% right.
Never forget you are great, your ex was lousy. Dont put the blame for what he did on you. It was never your fault. He is just selfish.
Confidence is gained by focusing on your strengths and looking to improve your weeknesses (like my spelling lol)
This is always a great time to try something new and different
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): I have been cheated on and I lost my strust in men. I close my heart and I can not believe who is honest man in this world? I see everyman may a great liar and cheater.
I still have my self confident. I know I have my moral value, I am lovely but I have broken heart. I do not care other woman is beautiful or not, because there are a lot of beautiful women in the world and we will never win them. The most important is if we know where is our value? What we want in our life. And MOST IMPORTANT WE WILL NEVER KNOW WHEN WE WILL CHEATED ON. That is not we can control.
Learn how to treat yourself well and we can let the cheater out of our life anytime we want.
I rather to be alone than to be with a cheater. Why we have to lower ourseft to live with cheater?
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reader, Kg15 +, writes (1 November 2009):
I understand how you feel.
What i did was, I believed in myself and tried to forget about him and made myself better.
And also that someone who is better will come.
And i don't know if this makes you feel better but be single for a bit enjoy flirting and stuff.
hope it helped
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reader, butterfly0916 +, writes (1 November 2009):
 First off please don't feel ugly i am a person that hates that because everyone is beautiful in their own way....i know it must be hard because i know people that has gone through that....well the way you should regain self confidence is fixing youself up getting to know new people.. everywhere you go show your good side and i know someone will come that will appreciate you....this man obvivously didnt and he didnt deserve you a man that cheats isnt worth it and i dont know your full situation but if this woman is beautiful on the outside then she most not be so on the inside...take care i hope i helped...
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