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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:How do I rebuild trust in my partner? He was unfaithful to me in the early stages of the relationship with his ex, I was devastated when I found out but thought the relationship was worth saving and so we worked through this. In a previous relationship my partner was unfaithful and this has made me the totally insecure person I now am.I now continually question what my partner is doing, with who, when his mobile goes I question who is texting as he doesnt respond to the message immediately which makes me suspicious. I asked him not to do this but sometimes he just doesnt think. He is now totally fed up with my insecurities and has asked for a bit of distance for a few days to work things out whether he wants to continue in the relationship. I am heart broken as I think I may have lost him due to me not having trust in him, even though I know he loves me to pieces. He just said that he has been feeling fed up for 2 weeks and needs time to reassess our relationship. Can you help and advise how I can change the way I am as I am determined not to lose him as he is the most loving, caring and kindest man I have ever met.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Dont hesitate, drag your man off to a relationship counsellor!! Both of you need to work at this relationship, you - overcoming your insecurities and him - helping you to trust him again. If he sees a counsellor as a 'waste of time' - you must still go as it will help you with future relationships - if he still wants to be with you and loves you he will want to mend the relationship. Oh - and its not your fault he was unfaithful!
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