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writes:I know there are a lot of less fortunate people than me around but I'm feeling really down at the moment because a series of events have happened in my life.I have a great job and lifestyle but it's the people and important things around me who are missing and disappearing at the moment and I don't know what to do.I moved interstate 3 years ago for work and I fell in love with the new place immediately. I met some amazing friends, had a great partner and I was always out on the weekends trying new things (hiking, camping, exploring etc) For 2.5 years my life was amazing. I felt so lucky.As from 6 months ago, it seems everyone and everything in my life just disappeared. 3 (yes 3) of my best friends have moved overseas or interstate for work with their partners and won't be back for up to 2 years, one my grand parents passed away, my partner and I broke up, my family live interstate and mentioned 2 weeks ago they can no longer visit as they can't afford flights...and to make things worse.....last month my swimming club closed down due to financial reasons...AND my dance teacher just gave everyone notice that classes will no longer run next month....what the???I just feel that everything is going wrong in my life and I have nobody to talk to. I don't want my parents to worry about me because I'm really far away so I'm not going to talk to them...and I've tried speaking to all 3 of my friends about it but they're always too wrapped up in telling me how great their new lives are. The last thing I want to do is ruin the moment and talk negatively about my life with them...Will things get better for me? I would love to meet somebody (a partner) who can keep me company and comfort me in the tough times but it just seems no one is around. Any advice? It's hard to meet people at age 28....I'd love to make some new friendships too. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2014): I've checked out some websites for you on the internet. You can check too by typing in something like dating websites on yahoo or google. So, here are a couple i've found: www.match.com www.mysinglefriend.com www.zoosks.com There is also www.friendfinder.com, which is a webcam thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2014): Thanks for the advice everyone....
Baby doll I'm interested in chatting online to people, what sites do you know that are available? Are they safe and will the people I meet on there be local?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2014): Now that you have some free-time on your hands, maybe you can volunteer some time to a good cause or charity.
Help the less fortunate and improve the lives of people who are doing worse than you are. You may feel depressed at the onset; but once you see the difference your help has made in some child's life; or some person down on their luck, your problems will seem small.
Join a zumba dance and exercise class. They are everywhere.
You meet young and energetic people, and you'll have a lot of fun staying in shape.
Take a class at a nearby university. You'll meet people around your age, if you take night-classes. Study something that will lead to a new interest, or introduce you to a new hobby. Creative people are seldom lonely or bored. The lulls in your social calendar should be filled with something constructive and enlightening. Not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. When one door closes, open another one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2014): It won't get better unless you work for it. Why not look for another dance club thing? Make more friends. There are millions of people out there. And as for the partner. Just wait, someone will come along. Maybe you could try some dating websites? It's not hard to find someone at 28. You're not that old! Just remember life won't work just like that. You have to work for your dreams and targets, and basically, to make your life a life, I guess. Good luck, hope it works out x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2014): You were able to make new friends 3 years ago, you can make more now, join clubs, get out there and stay positive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2014): It sounds like it's just a rough patch that will blow over soon enough. Find a new dance and swimming club and you'll feel things get a little easier. Your friends are just excited about new changes, once they're settled in to their new homes and stuff you'll be able to chat normally. Just get back into the things you were doing before and then your life will fall back to the way it was. Have you tried any websites for meeting people? Not necessarily dating but you could make friends on the internet and chat to people and then you never know it could make you some of the best friends you've ever had.
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