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writes: Hi, I am 17 and really like a teacher at my school. he is just turned 23 and and was a student teacher here last year too. We started getting on really well during a school trip at the end of last year but i don't know if he feels the same way about me as i do about him. we do joke around alot and get on really well. the other day he told me to go and see him if i got stuck on the homework he set but im top in my class and rarely get stuck, i told him i had already done it and he was just sort of like 'oh?' so i wasn't sure if what he said had a second meaning?? I don't know how to tell if he really likes me or how to move things forward if he does. Please help.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I am in a similar position as you. Quite recently a male lecturer said to me "Sit by this charming young lady". I thought, he might fancy me. However, he might find me attractive but he wouldnt take it a step further. My advice to you is stay clear of your teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): i feel the same way, last year i got tought by this teacher nd we were always chattin and smiling at each uva and he was always starin at me, he seemed upset when i didnt pik his subject this yr, nd now hes always tryin 2 make convo wid me. we went on a skl trip 4 in the hols and he came, he was always starring at me and smiling my friends always said last yr that he 'well fancies me' and yes he does, he always makes comments if i said something 2 ma friend in his classroom like 'im gettin some new straighteners' and not knowin e was listenin because hes like quite abit away from me he goes 'very nice' with a flirty smile, nd thats jus one of the tyms!! hes amazing, but on the france trip my i herd he has a gf and been wit her 3 nd a half yrs, he new i was upset wen i found out, i asked him if e missed her on the france trip and he said jus abit nd then he was lookin at my face while i was almost in tears. ive never met someone like him or felt like this b4 i really love him nd i miss being with him 2 hours a week, but i see him around and we stil talk nd he stil stares nd makes flirty comments, but i know he has a gf so we could never do anything wen i leave anyway, which kills cos im always emagining us being togetha.
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reader, stina  +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Look, if you plan on doing anything with your teacher, wait until he's not your teacher anymore - when you graduate. Doing anything with him now could mean his job and would probably destroy getting any most other teaching professions in the future. If you really care about him, let him go for now. Okay?
Take care.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (16 September 2006):
 In the UK it is a criminal offence for teachers to have any kind of personal relationship with their pupils of the kind you aspire to. Your teacher is young and inexperienced since he isn't long out of training college. He is probably still getting to terms with teacher-pupil professional barriers. He will learn in time that being 'too friendly' can be misconstrued as something more by teenage girls. My point is that you shouldn't be entertaining a relationship with your teacher as it is a big old mess whatever way you care to look at it. Firstly, if he makes a move on you then he is a sleaze who shouldn't be around children. Teachers mostly understand that there a line to be drawn even with older girls. If he is hitting on you then he will be doing it to girls in his school each and every year. Secondly, if he isn't after you then you shouldnt cause his professional career all sorts of bother. It sounds like he likes you because you are an intellectually able student - most teachers like teaching people like you as it makes their job seem worthwhile and you keep ofsted inspectors off their backs. If you said anything to him about how you feel then it could be very embarrassing as you see him in class for a long time after he knocks you back (as all good teachers should!). Rumours have a nasty habit of starting in schools - even if he is innocent then actions can be misconstrued and it could have a negative impact on his promotional prospects and career in general...and why? Because you have misread his interest as romantic when he is being a nice teacher. There is no 'win' situation in this for you - it is just an inappropriate romantic relationship and you will be leaving school next year and meeting lots of guys at Uni. and in that big world. Your teacher won't seem like quite so much of a catch then...
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (16 September 2006):
i think you should go see or next time askes go or even say to him your stuck should see whats going on.
he can get into trouble yes but you r over 17.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006): Your teacher is more than likely just being friendy with you. The 'Oh' probably just meant 'Oh, good for you'. He might have been surprised that you'd got it done already. As he is your teacher, it's unlikely that he likes you in 'that way' and even if he did, it wouldn't be a good thing. If anything were to happen between you and your teacher, he would get into serious trouble, lose his job and may never be able to teach again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006): well, he could get in trouble for doing anything with you as he is your teacher
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