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female
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30-35,
*Icare-
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half now. We've been long distance this whole time, but we talk every day. We've had some issues in our relationship. He's cheated on me before, and has told me that he has thought about doing it again but he hasn't. I see where he is coming from because distance can be tough, but it's really started to hurt me and I always think about if he is going to cheat again. I tell him that and he just gets mad and tells me that I don't trust him. He tells me that I shouldn't worry and that I always just find stuff wrong in our relationship to argue over, but it seems like he gives me reason to worry. Lately, we've been arguing everyday it seems because he tells me he doesn't care, he tells me everything is just whatever and it doesn't matter. I've asked him why and he says because of us, stuff just keeps repeating and he's tired of it but says he loves me, yet if I ask him if we should just end things he says it doesn't matter and it's up to me. He tells me if we do he'd still tell me he loves me every day and everything. The other day he told me that relationships to him don't really matter right now, till he is older and wants to get married, then it is significant, but for now it's just nice to have. I'm not really sure what that meant, it kind of made it seem like our relationship is just pointless and I'm here when he needs. I personally have thought of us as something more, but I am also a girl and we tend to do that. I told him how I felt about that and he didn't really say anything about it. I am not sure what to do because I care about him a lot and it's hard for me to leave him, but what do I do if he doesn't care anymore and just says everything is whatever?
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reader, loraemoon  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 he doesent seem to be bothered about anything you say or your feelings,hes being very selfish, id say walk away have a happy life with someone that really does care about you, not just himself
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 July 2010):
He couldn't give a damn about you. He's even said he might well cheat again. Why are you torturing yourself with a guy who offers you absolutely nothing. He's cheated, he's admitted he might cheat again, he's said he's not bothered about a committed relationship. There's nothing here at all for you. You need to end it, because he will only drag you down even more.
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