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writes: Has anybody ever received flowers from an exboyfriend after you had broken up with them? Specifically, if you had only been seeing eachother for a couple of months... Did they send them to your work? What was your reaction? Just trying to sort out any bad ideas ...Thanks,Mike
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I'm not sure that a gift, flowers or whatever, is the best "last" goodbye in order to part and leave a lasting impression.
If you want to leave a lasting impression, then bow out gracefully and send her a handwritten note. In this note, on plain, good quality paper, and your BEST penmanship, let her know all of her wonderful qualities. Tell her how beautiful she is and tell her how she made you feel. Tell her that you accept her decision with regret, but you wouldn't have missed the opportunity of the time that you spent together for any of the heartache that her absence is causing you. Then say Goodbye.
This letter should serve two purposes. It will be cathartic writing it for you and you should be able to think a few things through and work a few issues out by writing it. The second purpose is that after she reads a letter like this, I can assure you, she will have a few regrets.
Then, move on and find your heart's song, she's still out there! Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, well, she broke up with me. It was a long distance thing, and I'm not really sure why she did the breaking up, though she told me it was because she didn't want to get attached and get hurt when she went back to school (she's only 2 hours away). I never said anything nasty or anything after the break, I've kept things nice, but I've probably tried too hard. Honestly, flowers might be another fruitless attempt, but at least it would leave a lasting impression before she went back to school.
Smiles, I'm open to ideas like that, I just have problems thinking them up! I don't want to be over the top though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): You know, my eldest son once had balloons, filled with hellium, delivered at school for his sweetheart; that created quite a stirr; maybe you shold consider avenues like that; it is so different from the normal, flowers etc thing;
Good luck
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 Now it depends on how and why you broke up and who broke up with whom?
Thanks for the followup, that helps a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe place she works is just a part-time thing (waitressing/hosting) when she's not in school. She's good friends with the people that work there. Also, I was thinking of a short and sweet note (not sure what to say) and leaving it anonomyous. It couldn't be hard to figure out who sent them, but it would add a little mystery?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 July 2008):
Flowers at work are tricky, I think. They invite personal questions from people you would prefer to keep on a purely professional level. Don't get me wrong, flowers can be very nice to receive, but if they cause embarassment to the recipient then the feelings behind the gesture might be ignored.
If she is trying to build a career there, then the simple bouquet of flowers might follow her for a very long time. Is that what you're trying to accomplish?if it's not, then a card and flowers to her residence would be a better idea. But don't get your hopes up too much...
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): okay, sorry that makes a difference; did you part on a good and friedly basis?
Then by all means send her flowers; but as a "Happy Birthday, thinking about you; Have a great day"
do add your name and cellphone number otherwise you might wait forever to receive a thank you;
I think, depending on the circumstances of your break up; it is a great idea;
Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry for not being clear in the original post, but I am the one who is THINKING about sending flowers to the girl. Looking for the recipient's perspective.
Thanks,
Mike
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Sorry for not being clear in the original post, but I am the one who is THINKING about sending flowers to the girl. Looking for the recipient's perspective.
Thanks,
Mike
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): I suggest you appreciate the flowers;
send him a thank you sms/text; (don't read to much in it); probably just a good gesture to say "Hi, happy birthday", I am thinking about you;
Enjoy the flowers, the thought; say thank you and that is it; be mature about it;
Best wishes
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