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writes:alright, long question here: ok so about 6 months ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else which i accepted and so we decided to remain friends. Anyway a few weeks later we ended up getting together because i was home from university for the weekend and we went and had lunch. on my way back to university i texted her thanking her for taking the time to get together and i also asked her if i had told her i liked her sooner would she have gone out with me and she said no because we had already become great friends and she didn't want that to change and she made it clear that nothing was ever going to happen between us which i was totally ok with. So now we are both done school for the summer and i asked her if she would like to get together and grab lunch sometime and she said sure but then out of the blue she felt the need to tell me again that us going out as friends was just that and nothing more and that she hopes she isn't leading me on, so i told her that this was not the case and that i realized that nothing was going to happen between us and that those decisions were made 5 months ago. Anyway here is my question, after almost 6 months of not seeing each other we finally got together and had a great time but after we said goodbye all those past feelings for her just came rushing back and even though i know that nothing is ever going to happen between us i still feel the same way about her because she is such an amazing person and we both have very similar interests and just knowing that we share similar interests and really like spending time together and still not being able to be anything more than friends. So how can i put all of these feelings behind me without cutting her out as a friend? Any help is greatly appreciated
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 HIIt's great you had the courage to tell her in the first place, but as she has made it clear from the start it's only freindship she wants with you, It's now going always be on her mind that you wanted more. Which will make her feel a little different around you. The only thing I can suggest is that you only contact her via phone, or message for a while, so you can get to grips with things. She sounds like a great freind so you wouldn't want to loose that. And maybe try to get ouot a bit to meet other girls, you never know you might just find someone who will blow your mind away. xx
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