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writes:How do I play out a sub-dom relationship? The guy I've been seeing for a little why finally admitted to me that he's into being the submissive person in a relationship. Awesome! But how do I play out the dominant one? I've never ever have had experience with it. I'm normally the submissive one because I'm tiny, about 5 foot and 120 pounds. But he's 6 foot probably over 175. How do I do this?! He specifically told me that it is only between me and him. So when we're out in public it can't be shown. But we haven't had sex. And he's too respectful to even get to that point. That's another thing. Why is he like that? I'm so sexually attracted to him that it's hard not to pounce on him as soon as we start kissing!Any help at ALL would be appreciated or maybe some ideas to help me with his fantasies? Thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): OK. I think that you should have sex before you get into some S&M games! When I met the bf I am with now, the sex was amazing from the beginning, and it got better and better. We started to think about what we could get up to and I soon realsied that he is a natural sub. To be fair I am too, but we take it in turns as we like to please the other one!
You could go on the internet for ideas, any black sexy underwear and high heels is important,stockings and suspenders are essential! you could wear a sexy eye mask, you demand that he thanks you (" do you like that?" "yes, thankyou mistress etc..."), buy him a collar and leash.
Like I said, I am not naturally dominant but once I get in to that role it really turns me on and I love to see how much he enjoys it! I love bossing him around, it's such a stress reliever and helps to get rid of any niggling resentments you have with eachother.
Have fun, when you find someone that you can experiment with sexually and it is good, it really is an amzing experinece.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Are you at all familiar with the s and m ways? You said you're normally the sub, so I take it you ought to know already what it means to be a dom, as you will have been with one already.
You should talk to him more about this and what it means to him to make sure you're both at the same level. If he wants it hard core that's one thing that you might not be up for unless you're a natural dominatrix and like it that way. But my guess is he's looking for something on a smaller scale. Which just means you boss him around and tell him what to do. In bed as well as at your home. If he's a true submissive he'll do whatever you tell him to. Reward him when he's done the job you wanted him to do, or he should let your pleasure be his reward.
If this doesn't come natural then I am afraid you are two submissives stuck together and nothing sexual will ever happen as neither of you wish to take charge. If he's just into the light versions you could attempt taking turns of who's the sub and who's the dom. Both positions has their advantages and different forms of pleasure.
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