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writes:Hey guys, I need some advice.. I met a girl on a dating site about 3 weeks ago or so, (she's 32 and I'm 36), after messaging abit, we exchanged numbers, spoke on the phone and arranged a coffee date. That went well and a week later, we went on a second date which lasted for like 5 hours, she's a really nice girl and I'm really liking her. It was my birthday on Sunday and she'd bought me a gift (that she gave me as we were ending the 2nd date). We were going to go out for a meal on our 3rd date but she suggested us cooking together which I think is a great idea! The thing is, she's not like other girls I've been out with, after the 1st and 2nd date, I went to kiss her and she kissed my cheek (I find that very respectable, I'm just not used not having French kiss after a 1st or at least 2nd date). So I'm just not sure on the 3rd date how to play it for example, as in when we've eaten and sit down to watch a film, do I put my arm round her or wait for her to make a move or what? I just want her to be comfortable, I don't want to do the wrong thing.. oh and I'm not good with signals.... Please can you guys help or give any suggestions?Thanks! x
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (12 April 2017):
 If you want to do something which you are not sure she is ready for, ASK her, then be prepared to accept "no" as an answer and leave it on the back burner for another time.
If you want to put your arm around her and it doesn't come naturally, ask casually "do you mind if I put my arm around you, as I would really like that". She may cuddle up to you before that, so putting your arm around her would be totally acceptable.
Good luck. I hope the date goes well.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 April 2017):
 Are you cooking together at hers or yours?
I'd personally, let her take charge but start the date with a hug when you see her. TOUCH is important and it SHOWS interest and physical attraction.
By leading with a hug when you see her, she will know you are interested and by letting HER set the pace you are showing that you respect her setting the pace.
And I agree, expect nothing. It's IS only the 3rd date and 3 weeks, so it's fine for there to not be any "real" intimacy.
NO need to rush things.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (12 April 2017):
Let her lead. She will let you know how far she wants to take things.
Do not expect anything. A woman can sense your intend, and she may shutdown and become cold.
Cooking together could be a test...To see what you are really after...or...it could the chance she wants to get you both alone together.
Either way....expect nothing.
Treat he the way you would want her to treat you.
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