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writes:I am 27 years old and I get anxiety when I approach a woman. I'm a heavy set guy, but more athletic than fat. I've been in relationships before but at this point in my life I would just love to settle down and start a meaningful relationship. I just need to get over my anxiety and feeling like I'm not good enough. I'm naturally an introvert and just want to put myself out there. How do I overcome this fear of rejection and anxiety? Even if I do start a conversation I do not know how to close. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2017):
 First of all OP, WE all dislike rejection, we ALL fear it to some extend and we ALL get rejected at some point in life.
THOSE are facts.
I say this TedX and I showed it to my kids because I felt it was a GREAT way to deal with rejection and self-worth, so I'll link it to you as well. See if you can't take from it that it's NOT all about the rejection but how you SEE the rejection. Which rarely is one and the same.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ
I REALLY like CodeWarrior's advice below. It's honest and approachable.
You can do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2017): I would say closing with a big smile and if all going fine maybe with the line - I really have to dash , scoot ( whatever word you use ) , but wish I didn't .. do you think we could catch up again like say Friday night .. me, you lil dinner or drink and chat " And be confident but sweet as you sound it ..
Remember love sometimes takes us by surprise and until then enjoy the hope of it . Just don't think it's you if they say no .. not everyone can see how wonderful you are . Some girls want ( sorry girls ) instant this .. instant that .. and don't or won't give it a chance . But don't take it personally as it isn't .. just say .. hey that's still cool , and end with catch you around sometimes and still smile even if they say no .. as it wasn't meant to be .
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